Protect Your Children . . . But Not Too Much

flying-angel-rescuing-childWe pray for our children and loved ones to live easy, uncomplicated, happy lives. We may be doing them a disservice.

We serve our children better by praying that the hardships they do endure make them stronger, wiser, and better equipped to share their unique gifts with the world.

Just as the universe treats all of God’s children with loving detachment, so must we guide and support our children while recognizing that “rescuing” them from difficulties can thwart the maturation process and prevent them from learning vital life lessons.

Too many parents make life hard for their children by trying, too zealously, to make it easy for them.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Indeed, we may inadvertently be creating an endless loop of dependence and entitlement that retards their psychological and spiritual growth.

Instead, let us encourage our children to venture outside their comfort zone and embrace all the richness that life has to offer.

Come to the edge.”
“We can’t. We are afraid.”
“Come to the edge.”
“We can’t. We will fall.”
“Come to the edge.”
And they came.
And he pushed them.
And they flew.

Christopher Logue


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2 Responses to “Protect Your Children . . . But Not Too Much”

  1. Chris Cade Says:

    I agree entirely. In raising my son, I intentionally give him opportunities that challenge him – and may result in him getting hurt (but not permanently injured) – just so he has the growth opportunities.

    He also has my devious mind, which does sometimes scare me a little… and yet, I know he’ll be fine. He’s 2 and already understands not to touch hot burners and boiling pots, and yet he never had to get burned and I never had to tell him ‘no.’ I just gave him uncomfortable opportunities to learn about heat and let him learn the lessons through experience.

    Now, he responds much more effectively to “It’s hot” than “No” in other relevant situations (e.g. oven, frying pan, space heater, etc)

  2. Phil Bolsta Says:

    Glad to hear you’re parenting so consciously, Chris. I wish more parents would do that.

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