Learn to Love the Unlovable

little-girl-holding-heartImagine shifting your perspective and recognizing that every time you meet or talk with a fellow human being, you have an opportunity to provide love to that person, love which they are in desperate need of.

Choosing love does not require you to be demonstratively loving, which could easily be misinterpreted under certain circumstances. It may simply mean that you project a loving presence during the course of your interactions.

Why wouldn’t you come from love in every encounter? For most of us, it is because our ego gets in the way. In looking out for our own self-interest, we become blind to the needs of others.

When we come from ego, we sit in constant judgment of others; and more often than not, we find them wanting—often with good cause. Yet when people act their worst, that is when they are most in need of love.

You will not learn how to choose love in every moment until you confront the unlovable. Celebrate the difficult moments, for they are where the missing pieces of your greatness can be found.

Responding with love is always an option. Living consciously carries with it the awareness of that option—and the responsibility to choose it.

Love means to love that which is unlovable. Otherwise it is no virtue at all.
                     G. K. Chesterton


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2 Responses to “Learn to Love the Unlovable”

  1. Yin Says:

    It is not easy to love the unlovable no matter how hard I try. I have learned how not to hate those who hurt me, but I just can’t pretend that there is nothing happen after I was hurt by those people. Believe me, I do want to have a big heart! You make it sounds so easy to love the unlovable. I really admire you.

  2. Phil Bolsta Says:

    Thanks very much, Yin. But it’s not easy at all. It can take years before what we know intellectually actually becomes a part of who we are. It all depends upon your worldview and how you interpret the meaning and purpose of life events. Lots of big, big questions to answer there!

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