The Balcony of Introspection

The more you can step back and view whatever happens as an impartial observer, rather than as a victim, the more peaceful you will be.

Much of our inner turbulence reflects the fear of loss: our dependence on people, circumstances, and things not really under our control. On some level we know that death, indifference, rejection, repossession, or high tide may leave us bereft in the morning. Still, we clutch desperately at things we cannot finally hold. Nonattachment is the most realistic of attitudes. It is freedom from wishful thinking, from always wanting things to be otherwise.
Marilyn Ferguson

Paramahansa Yogananda urged his devotees to “look dispassionately at the drama of your life from the balcony of introspection.”

To become a spectator of one’s own life is to escape the suffering of life.
Oscar Wilde

Impartially observing the circumstances of a loved one’s life may be more difficult. After all, you may care about their well-being more than your own. Understand that you can be caring and supportive while recognizing that they have their own path to walk, their own lessons to learn, and agendas, values, and priorities that may diverge widely from your own.

Detachment is not indifference. it is the prerequisite for effective involvement. Often what we think is best for others is distorted by our attachments to our opinions. We want others to be happy in the way we think they should be happy. It is only when we want nothing for ourselves that we are able to see clearly into others’ needs and understand how to serve them.
Mahatma Gandhi

Detaching from the drama generated by a loved one can mean the difference between living a peaceful, happy life and making yourself sick from worry, stress, and grief. You may tell yourself that you are being compassionate by caring so much it hurts; In truth, your “empathy” damages you both.

You can’t get sick enough to make another person healthy.
You can’t get sad enough to make another person happy.
You can’t get poor enough to help one person on the planet get rich.
You can’t get hungry enough to feed one starving child.

Wayne Dyer

Learn to view life’s dramas from this perspective and your enlightened detachment may often be misconstrued by those who allow themselves to be swallowed whole by one crisis after another.

The thinking mind cannot understand Presence and so will often misinterpret it. It will say that you are uncaring, distant, have no compassion, are not relating. The truth is, you are relating but at a level deeper than thought and emotion. In fact, at that level there is a true coming together, a true joining that goes far beyond relating. In the stillness of Presence, you can sense the formless essence in yourself and in the other as one. Knowing the oneness of yourself and the other is true love, true care, true compassion.
Eckhart Tolle






ABOUT PHIL BOLSTA

Phil is the author of Through God’s Eyes: Finding Peace and Purpose in a Troubled World, a comprehensive guide to living a spiritual life. Who will benefit from reading it?

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SiSe_fullcover_final.inddPhil is also the author of Sixty Seconds: One Moment Changes Everything, a collection of 45 inspiring, life-changing stories from prominent people he interviewed, including Joan Borysenko, Deepak Chopra, geneticist Dr. Francis Collins, acclaimed sportswriter Frank Deford, Dr. Larry Dossey, Wayne Dyer, Dan Millman, Caroline Myss, Dr. Christiane Northrup, Dr. Dean Ornish, Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen, Dr. Bernie Siegel, James Van Praagh, singer Billy Vera, Doreen Virtue, Neale Donald Walsch, and bassist Victor Wooten.

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Reading this book is like spending a few minutes face to face with each of the contributors and listening to their personal stories. Click here to read unsolicited testimonials from readers. Learn more by visiting the official Sixty Seconds website.

Sixty Seconds was one of three finalists in the General Interest/How-To category at the 12th annual Visionary Awards presented by COVR (Coalition of Visionary Resources) in Denver on June 27, 2009.

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