You’re Got Relationship Questions, Nathaniel Branden Has Answers!

If you are in a relationship or want to be in a relationship—which is pretty much everybody!—you owe it to yourself to read The Romantic Love Question & Answer Book, written by psychotherapist Nathaniel Branden.

The book addresses every conceivable aspect of romantic relationships and offers a wealth of insights and examples that can help people create a healthier, more intimate relationship. If you are not currently in a relationship, this book can help you make your next relationship a successful one.

The book was published in 1982. I suspect that if it had been published in 2010, it would have been a runaway bestseller.

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Branden writes with great clarity and precision. I found myself repeatedly impressed with how he expressed complicated subjects so concisely and powerfully. Reading something that makes me think, “Wow, I couldn’t write this better myself,” is my litmus test for quality.

I had read Branden’s book, The Psychology of Romantic Love, years ago and enjoyed it greatly. (Originally published in 1980, Branden updated it in 2008.) In both books, he shares a sentence-completion exercise that is remarkably effective at helping people express their true feelings about a topic. For example, here is a humorous albeit quite revealing excerpt:

Q: My husband is in favor of my working, so long as it doesn’t interfere with all my duties at home. In effect, my emancipation consists of having two jobs. How do I get my husband to understand that I need help in running the house?

A: We once presented this problem at an Intensive to a group of men whose wives or girlfriends held jobs ranging from the secretarial to the executive. Most of them acknowledged feeling that regardless of any work a woman did outside, the home was her first responsibility.

We invited them to experiment with the sentence stem “If I were expected to be a homemaker in addition to holding down a full-time job——.” Amidst a good deal of laughter and embarrassment, their endings included:

I’d say, “Are you kidding?”

I’d feel angry and exploited.

I’d feel overworked.

I’d probably be too tired for anything else.

I’d wonder how come my partner only does one job while I do two.

I’d sure as hell understand the feminists better.

I’d start yelling for help.

I don’t know what I’d do about it, but I’d be unhappy.

I’d wonder who made up the rules.

I’d say, “We’ve got to get a maid.”

I’d say, “My partner has to share some of the burdens at home.”

I’d say, ‘What kind of racket is this?”

This sentence-completion exercise can be an interesting place to begin for a husband who does not see that he ought to help. If he comes to appreciate the inequity involved, the next natural question is: “What do you think we should do?”


It was a great pleasure for me to video-interview Nathaniel Branden recently. Click here to watch that interview.

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Click here to visit Branden’s website.


As a special bonus, click here to read the spellbinding account of how Devers Branden, Nathaniel’s co-author and wife at the time, met novelist/philosopher Ayn Rand, who had a long and fascinating relationship with Nathaniel. Knowing as much as I do about the relationship between Nathaniel and Rand, I was literally holding my breath while reading it. Devers has more guts and moxie than I could summon in ten lifetimes!

This story was part of a section from Nathaniel’s memoir, Judgment Day: My Years with Ayn Rand, that was cut prior to publication. That 1989 book was later updated and published in 1999 as My Years with Ayn Rand.





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4 Responses to “You’re Got Relationship Questions, Nathaniel Branden Has Answers!”

  1. Anil Bhatnagar Says:

    Nathaniel Branden is my favorite too. Though he is mostly known for his work on self esteem–“The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem’ and the one on romantic love, it was his lesser known book, “The Art of Living Consciously,” that I read with great interest a few years ago. Using stem-completion exercises to uncover our unconscious status is unique in all his books. ‘Honoring the self’ is another great book of his. What intrigues me is his honesty. Lately I heard that he was impressed with Past life regression therapy and admitted that it was difficult to believe what he earlier did not believe in.

    Anil Bhatnagar

  2. Phil Bolsta Says:

    I too am impressed with Nathaniel’s self-honesty, Anil. It takes courage, integrity and authenticity to realize an error in thinking and do what needs to be done to correct it. If you truly believe in the supremacy of reason then you must be willing to face when you have made an error in reason. That is far easier said than done, especially for many people whose lives and careers are heavily invested in what they no longer believe to be true.

  3. mel Says:

    Phil,
    The issue about working married women juggling two jobs at the same time is already old but still exists.
    Being a homemaker, a wife, a mother and an employee, all the same time is quite a challenge for any woman.
    For me, if I fell in love again and decide to get married I chose to be not only a wife & mother and homekaker but also as an employee but it would not be a sacrifice, it would be my pleasure. My pleasure to serve my husband and children (because I love them!) and to feel that all the years of studying to finish a degree would not be wasted.

  4. Phil Bolsta Says:

    I like your attitude, mel! Yes, the secret to enjoying life is to reframe whatever we are dealing with as an opportunity for learning, growth, joy, service, etc. It’s amazing how a simple shift in perspective changes everything.

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