Melissa from PigtailPals.com posted this short essay on August 3, 2011. Six weeks later, it had collected 412,000 views. I know. Awesome. I bet the vast majority of women out there will relate to this. As the father of a daughter who loved to frolic as a kid, I can certainly relate. Melissa was kind enough to give me permission to post her essay here.
The motto of PigtailPals.com is “Redefine Girly: Let’s change the way we think about our girls.” That starts with changing the way we talk to girls. And it starts with you . . . right now . . . reclaiming your awesome!
WAKING UP FULL OF AWESOME
There was a time when you were five years old,
and you woke up full of awesome.
You knew you were awesome.
You loved yourself.
You thought you were beautiful,
even with missing teeth and messy hair and mismatched socks inside your grubby sneakers.
You loved your body, and the things it could do.
You thought you were strong.
You knew you were smart.
Do you still have it?
Did someone take it from you?
Did you let them?
Did you hand it over, because someone told you weren’t beautiful enough, thin enough, smart enough, good enough?
Why the hell would you listen to them?
Did you consider they might be full of %*@#?
Wouldn’t that be nuts, to tell my little girl below that in another five or ten years she might hate herself because she doesn’t look like a starving and Photoshopped fashion model?
Or even more bizarre, that she should be sexy over smart, beautiful over bold?
Are you freaking kidding me?
Look at her. She is full of awesome.
You were, once. Maybe you still are. Maybe you are in the process of getting it back.
All I know is that if you aren’t waking up feeling like this about yourself, you are really missing out.
UPDATE: Melissa added these comments on September 15, 2011:
So…I wrote this little blog post a few weeks back, just something simple one morning after my muse, my daughter, gave me a little inspiration. I just thought that girl was full of awesome. To date it has well over 400,00 views. That amazes me, but not as much as the powerful comments (500+) that have been left.
Awesome is something you choose. Our kids do it naturally, they can’t help themselves. It is the choice to hold your face up to the world, knowing you are beautiful inside and out, and feel the light that shines out of you. Somewhere along the way, some people stop looking, stop choosing to be awesome. It doesn’t matter what your story is, if it is happy or painful…the time to be awesome is now.
Make that choice for yourself. Tell your demons to shut it. If you can’t remember feeling awesome, then make new memories. Start today. Start now.
I read a lot of comments of scaring stories from people describing their awesome being taken. Put your trust in me when I say from my own story, I understand that. Put your trust in me further when I say, by God, take it back. Choose awesome. Choose the power of you over the power of your story. Your history does not define you, your choices do. Go on and get your awesome.
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