Tell Me How You Feel!

two-guys-talking-in-coffeeshopI recently asked a friend in a restaurant how he was coping with the end of his marriage. He shrugged and said he didn’t know what to say. Thinking I wasn’t being clear, I asked how he was feeling. To my astonishment, he said he doesn’t talk about his feelings. We blinked at each other across the table for a few awkward moments before I clumsily tried to change the subject to something more superficial.

He’s not the only guy (or gal) I’ve encountered who keeps his feelings to himself. Frankly, I just don’t understand that. Then again, I’m at the point in my life where I don’t like to waste time with small talk; I like to make deep connections with people and establish emotionally intimate relationships right off the bat.

I understand that people who have been hurt or traumatized guard against opening up to others for fear of being hurt again. I find that incredibly sad. Energetically speaking, they are dooming themselves to a vicious cycle of fearing and expecting—and hence unconsciously manifesting—the worst from people.

After all, the state of your reality is a reflection of your state of mind, which is determined by the quality of your thoughts. If you do not control your thoughts, they will control you.

You may believe that the world is menacing and chaotic, that no one can be trusted, that life is an endless series of bad breaks and hard knocks. After all, rare is the person who has not been bullied at school, fired from a job, or felt rejected and even humiliated by a member of the opposite sex.

Or, you may trust that the universe is benevolent and orderly, that most people are compassionate and good-hearted, that every day offers countless opportunities to celebrate life and extend kindness to others.

Each of these outlooks will attract the people, situations, and events that reinforce the worldview of the person doing the attracting. What’s more each occurrence will strengthen that person’s beliefs, thereby attracting even more “proof” that the way they perceive the world is the way the world actually is.

Their core beliefs will always be perpetuated because people tend to “see” only what they believe or what they can make sense of. Indeed, when two people with opposing viewpoints witness the same event, they will interpret it in opposite ways to make it fit their preconceived notions.

Who you are and how you see the world determine what you attract. Maintain a loving, positive attitude, and you will act as a magnet to draw loving, positive people and experiences into your life.

The same principle applies to negative mindsets. Throw mental daggers at your boss and you will continue to be the target of his fault-finding missions, never imagining for a moment that you are contributing mightily to your own misery.

This universal law is at work in your own life whether or not you are conscious of it. Every thought, every choice, has consequences. Ultimately, the only thing standing between you and a brighter future is your very next thought.

A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person
lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.

                                               Ken Keyes, Jr.






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2 Responses to “Tell Me How You Feel!”

  1. Rhonda Says:

    Ken,
    I love the way you think. I feel just like you, I just haven’t been able to express it just this way.

    Rhonda

  2. Phil Bolsta Says:

    I’m glad I could put words to your feelings, Rhonda. It’s nice to connect with people who you feel you resonate with.

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