The Energetics of Giving

two-birds-sharingI received this insightful message from a friend the other day:

Isn’t it funny how when you ‘get’ something, it is so obvious you wonder how you ever missed it?  I recently found myself feeling a little miffed when I decided my niece wasn’t as appreciative (for a gift I had given her) as I thought I would be in her place.  Right after the negative thought, a shiny question popped into my head.  Am I helping her so that she’ll love me more?  Or am I helping her because I love her?  That got me back on track.  

A wise observation. True giving has no ulterior motives. You do it with pure intent, a loving heart, and no expectations. Certainly, anyone who is socially adept will at least acknowledge a gift. But when you expect anything more than a grateful nod or a smile, your motives are not pure and you disrupt the flow of energy that otherwise would be delivering more abundance into your life.

There is no grace in a benefit that sticks to the fingers.
Lucius Annaeus Seneca


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4 Responses to “The Energetics of Giving”

  1. Deb Reilly Says:

    Thanks Phil.

    I received a gift from my niece this morning. A mutual acquaintance asked her how she felt about me. Her eyes filled with tears as she choked out some of the most loving words anyone has ever said to me. She finished with, “Aunt Debbie, you are like an angel.” None of us held back our tears.

    When you help someone, they may be unable to express their gratitude, but that doesn’t mean they haven’t been deeply moved. Love–there is nothing better!

  2. Phil Bolsta Says:

    What a wonderful moment. These are the moments that stay with us, that we take with us, that we gather strength from. Thanks for sharing this, Deb.

  3. David Slocombe Says:

    Hi Phil

    I have been very blessed-especially since I realized I was a co-creator in my life. I love giving-giving back, giving to whomever is open to receiving.

    I expect nothing in return from the person whom I give. But God, Source, The Universe gives me an incredible energy rush that I feel so connected. I am grateful.

    I recommend he most easiest and incredible fun way to give. It is by @toddsilva and his great way to unite the world through unconditional giving at .

    Do you remeber when you were a kid and found a quarter or a dollar? The joy and excitment of finding such a treasure was incredible. Well, Todd believes that is still inside us. He encourages you to hide a dollar somewhere on your daily journey in the hopes that when someone finds this treasure their joy will help them through their day.

    Imagine the amazing places you could hide your dollar. The surprise of finding a dollar behind the little door where you fill up your gas tank would be amazing. And whenever we hide our dollar there my 5yr old always cracks up.

    The best thing is that you will never see the person face when they receive this gift. But you can imagine their joy and excitment. This brings incredible energy to me.

    I hope you enjoy this daily exercise as much as I and my family do.


    David Slocombe

  4. Phil Bolsta Says:

    Thanks, David! I really like Todd’s idea. I just tweeted him to ask him for an interview for my blog. Thanks for directing me to him!

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