What Happened to the Child?

Many a bewildered parent has wondered how their bright, cheerful grade-school daughter could turn into a sullen, depressed teenager virtually overnight. Clearly, twelve-year-old girls face a tremendous amount of pressure from society, their peers, and themselves. Many girls feel that they cannot perform well academically and still be attractive to boys. And then there is the wholly unattainable Barbie doll model of feminine attractiveness that shreds girls’ self-esteem and spawns potentially fatal eating disorders.

I’ve seen it happen far too often, as have you. I was haunted enough by this sad phenomenon that I wrote a song about it. I wish that every girl could learn to see the unique and beautiful creation that she is.

My talented friend, Jeffery Goodson, put my lyric to music. Click on the audio player below to hear Jeff sing What Happened to the Child?


Another gorgeous day, but storm clouds fill your mind,
Your schoolwork has suffered, you’re now six weeks behind,
The medication hasn’t helped, it takes time, I realize,
But my heart breaks every time I see the sadness in your eyes.

What happened to the child,
Who laughed and danced and twirled,
I wish that you could see,
Just how much you mean . . . to this world.

When you talk at all, your words hang heavy in the air,
I can’t recall the last time you wore ribbons in your hair,
When you look inside yourself, you don’t like what you see,
I can almost hear you thinking, How could anyone love me?

What happened to the child,
Who laughed and danced and twirled,
I wish that you could see,
Just how much you mean . . . to this world.

Nobody is perfect but you will always be . . .
Perfectly beautiful to me.

I miss the happy child
Who laughed and danced and twirled,
I wish that you could see,
Just how much you mean . . . to this world.

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6 Responses to “What Happened to the Child?”

  1. Deb Reilly Says:

    Seeing my child in pain is more painful than anything else I could experience. Beautiful song.

  2. Phil Bolsta Says:

    Thank you, Deb. I think you’d agree that any pain is more than offset by the exquisite joy of having a child to love.

  3. Kim Wencl Says:

    Gotta weigh in on this one … you are right on the money, Phil, the joys DO outweigh the pain.

  4. Phil Bolsta Says:

    I’d go even farther, Kim. The joy is so vast and omnipresent that once your child recovers, the pain, though it may have been intense at the time, quickly dissipates as if it had never been.

  5. Taylor Says:

    society should stop trying to portray these women on tv as barbie dolls, it puts too much pressure on us girls to live up to these standards. Unfortunatley,

  6. Phil Bolsta Says:

    Thank you, Taylor. As the father of a wonderful daughter, I couldn’t agree more.

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