Be A Nurturing Force in the World

face-massageOne of my massage clients, a wealthy businessman, broke the silence fifteen minutes into his massage at a local hotel by casually remarking, “Isn’t this odd. I’ve had massage all over the world and never experienced anything quite like this. It’s almost . . . what’s the word I’m looking for . . . it’s almost . . . maternal.”

Years later on a Sunday afternoon, at my favorite restaurant, I was working my way around the table giving my four dining companions mini-massages while they sat in their chairs. After I gave a face massage to one woman whom I had just met that morning, she said in wonderment, “No one has ever touched me like that except my mother.”

Those are the most meaningful massage-related compliments I’ve ever received. I’ve always maintained that it’s not the technique in a massage that’s most important, it’s the attitude behind it. There is no substitute for a nurturing, loving intent.

The difference between regular therapeutic massage and a nurturing, loving massage can be summed up in two words: intention and attention. The therapist must be completely focused and deeply committed to serving as an instrument of divine healing. And full attention is required; if the therapist’s mind wanders, the quality of the massage will be compromised.

Who among us does not crave love and nurturing? Yet, it is all too rare for one human being to touch another with nurturing, loving intent and no ulterior motives. Indeed, many people have not even experienced somebody listening to them with nurturing, loving intent.

I recently provided healing touch to a 99-year-old hospice patient. She was too frail to get on a massage table, so I just gently rubbed her arms and shoulders and caressed her face while she laid in bed. As I was preparing to leave, her son told me that her husband had died forty-six years ago and she hadn’t been touched since. How sad.

You have the opportunity to make the world a more nurturing place. The next time you are talking to a friend or loved one, give them your full attention. If appropriate, touch their arm or hand in a loving way. Make them feel like they’re the most important person in the world and there’s nowhere else you would rather be. You will find that by nurturing others, you will also be nurturing your own soul.

Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.
Og Mandino

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4 Responses to “Be A Nurturing Force in the World”

  1. Kim Wencl Says:

    After reading this, I want a massage!

  2. Phil Bolsta Says:

    I think everyone should get a massage every week! The world would be a happier place!

  3. Karen Peck Says:

    I couldn’t agree more! Touch is curative–nurturing–connecting–meaningful. Thank you so much for sharing this!

  4. Phil Bolsta Says:

    You’re very welcome, Karen!

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