Not long ago, I shared a table at the raw food restaurant I frequent with a handful of friends, one of whom was a woman who was relatively new to the concept of a raw food diet. After hearing some of our stories, she enthusiastically announced that she was going to go 100 percent raw the very next day. Gently, I told her that going raw was not as simple as it sounded, that it typically took two to three years to make the transition, and that she was setting herself up for certain failure.
I bet you can relate to that woman. Who among us hasn’t excitedly started an exercise program, changed our diet, started a spiritual path or leapt into any other self-improvement effort with high hopes and stars in our eyes? And who among us hasn’t raised the white flag after a few days, a few weeks or a few months and slunk away defeated and disappointed in ourselves?
The pattern is always the same. You get great results when you start working out or eating better or meditating regularly and then . . . you sleep in one morning and skip the gym, or a friend bakes your favorite pie just for you, or responsibilities at work and home fill up your day. Then that one day away from the gym becomes a week, or you decide that a little chocolate couldn’t possibly hurt, or your promise to get up earlier to meditate falls prey to the snooze alarm.
Whatever life-improvement regimen you are about to embark upon, please, please, please do not hold yourself to a standard of perfection. If you do, you will fail. It is that simple. Unrealistic expectations produce predictable outcomes.
When you do take a step back—and you will—recognize that backsliding is part of the process. Don’t beat yourself up, just gather your resolve and start again the next moment, the next day or as soon as you can. And days, weeks or months later, when you take another step back—and you will—treat that lapse (and all the lapses to come) the same way.
Be kind to yourself and take all the time you need to gradually make better and healthier choices. When you do take a detour, enjoy the scenery. And know that every time you stumble, the odds of taking another misstep diminish ever so slightly in terms of both frequency and severity.
It may take years to develop the discipline and habits you expected to perfect on day one. But that’s okay. In fact, it’s more than okay: it’s the way we humans work. And once you get to where you wanted to go, all that matters is that you got there.
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