Recognize the Limitations of Who You Used to Be

How do we begin the process of forgiveness, of release? It may help to view your adversary in a new light—not as a powerful monster, but as a flawed, insecure human being in need of love and compassion. In other words, much like yourself.

We must learn actually not to have enemies, but only confused adversaries who are ourselves in disguise.
Alice Walker

In fact, you may be your own antagonist. Resentment is the inability to forgive others; guilt is the inability to forgive yourself.

Every guilty person is his own hangman.
Seneca

If you are wracked with guilt, it may help to view your former self as a separate person, as someone who no longer resembles you, who did not have the knowledge and wisdom that you now possess.

The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise.
Alden Nowlan

Reframing your transgression by recognizing the limitations of the person you used to be may give you the distance you need to apply these principles and find some measure of peace.

I do not want the peace that passeth understanding. I want the understanding which bringeth peace.
Helen Keller





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2 Responses to “Recognize the Limitations of Who You Used to Be”

  1. ArrVee Says:

    it is when we try to forgive (whether others or ourselves) that we realize one of our limitations – the difficulty of forgiving – and that to forgive is truly Divine.

    maybe when we have sought for and received forgiveness from Him for our transgressions, we can take comfort in that it has been done for us in spite of our own difficulty of forgiving ourselves, and move on.

  2. Phil Bolsta Says:

    Yes, ArrVee, it seems to me that in order to forgive others, we need to be able to forgive ourselves. Just as we must love ourselves if we are to be able to truly love others.

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