By definition, the craving for external security leads to a life lived in fear. After all, if you desperately want something, you will desperately fear losing it once you have it.
There is fear as long as you want to be secure—secure in your marriage, secure in your job, in your position, in your responsibility, secure in your ideas, your beliefs, secure in your relationship to the world or in your relationship to God. The moment the mind seeks security or gratification in any form, at any level, there is bound to be fear.
Obsessed with holding on to what you have, you may not only fail to recognize life-enriching opportunities, you may view them as threats to what you are so fiercely protecting.
The walls that we build around ourselves both mentally and physically give us the dangerous false illusion that we are safe, but there’s no such thing as a (more…)