A Close Shave

I was looking forward to meeting my friend, Lien, at Ecopolitan, my favorite restaurant, around 2:00. I arrived before 1:30, laptop in hand, looking forward to getting a little work done before she showed up.

As I walked in, a lovely young woman looked at me as if she had been waiting for me to walk through the door. “You’re here every time I am,” she said with a friendly smile. What a nice greeting! I Introduced myself and asked her dining companion if this was her first time at Ecopolitan. I said, “Nice to meet you both,” turned around and saw a young man looking at me just as purposefully. “It’s his first time too,” he said, gesturing to his elderly dining companion as if we were the best of friends. More introductions and small talk followed. I handed out bookmarks for my book to all four of them and asked them to leave a blog comment or send me an e-mail so we could stay connected.

Ecopolitan has always been my Cheers—I know everybody and everybody knows me—but there was an especially friendly vibe in the house today. Before sitting down to wait for my friend, I ducked in the bathroom. Glancing in the mirror, I realized, “Oh-oh. I forgot to shave.” Foolish, foolish Phil. Did I get angry at myself? Did I start stressing out? Nope. I laughed. I’ve trained myself to slow down and view my mess-ups as opportunities for mini-adventures. No matter what is in front of me, I do my best to greet it with gratitude and these three words: As you wish. I decided on the spot to drive the six miles back home to make myself more presentable. So off I went, bidding adieu to my newfound friends as I left.

What gifts did I find in my failure to shave? Plenty:

• If I hadn’t arrived at Eco when I did, I wouldn’t have connected with the people I met there in quite the same way.

• It felt good to know that I was getting better at staying calm and present in supposedly stressful situations.

• Instead of wasting half an hour berating myself, I stayed peaceful and happy, which enabled me to mentally compose a key addition to the book I was working on by the time I got back home. A wonderful bonus!

• Last but not least, my mistake provided me with a good blog post! It feels good knowing that my oversight may provide insight to others.

Oh, by the way, after shaving, I walked back into Ecopolitan at 2:00 on the nose. Made it by a whisker!

Click here to see all my posts featuring my life stories.


Phil is the author of Through God’s Eyes: Finding Peace and Purpose in a Troubled World, a comprehensive guide to living a spiritual life. Who will benefit from reading it?

Anyone who is on a spiritual path, or wants to start one
Anyone who loves life, or wants to learn how to
Anyone who is happy, or wants to be happier

To order your copy of Through God’s Eyes, go to GodsEyesOrder.com OR order from Amazon at GodsEyesAmazon.com OR for an inscribed copy, click here to e-mail Phil for information.

Click here for more information about Through God’s Eyes.
Click here to ask Phil to add you to his e-mail list for updates on his blog and books.

Through God’s Eyes won first place in the “Spirituality and Inspirational” category at the San Diego Book Awards on June 22, 2013.

Here is a two-minute video introduction to Through God’s Eyes.

Want to learn more about Through God’s Eyes? Here is a free 40-page PDF sampler from the book that includes:

• an overview of the book
• the complete table of contents
• the Foreword by Caroline Myss
• my Introduction
• chapter excerpts
• a sample end-of-chapter story
• endorsements from authors and thought leaders

Just click on the link below to download your free PDF sampler!


Phil’s eBook, The Logic of Living a Spiritual Life: Supporting a Life of Faith Through Logic and Reason, is now available for 99 cents on Amazon.

Order it at GodIsLogical.com.

In this eBook, you’ll find answers to questions like:
• What is the cornerstone of a spiritual life, and why?
• What is the secret to liberating yourself from other people’s judgments and expectations?
• Why is there an exception to “Everything happens for a reason”?

Those who worship logic instead of God are only half right. Not only is it logical to believe in God and to live a faith-based life, the existence of a loving, benevolent God that governs all creation is perhaps the only systematic worldview that explains every aspect of life.

Schedule a Mastery Mentoring phone session with Phil to learn how to apply principles of spiritual living more effortlessly and effectively. Priced affordably! Click here to e-mail Phil for details.

SiSe_fullcover_final.inddPhil is also the author of Sixty Seconds: One Moment Changes Everything, a collection of 45 inspiring, life-changing stories from prominent people he interviewed, including Joan Borysenko, Deepak Chopra, geneticist Dr. Francis Collins, acclaimed sportswriter Frank Deford, Dr. Larry Dossey, Wayne Dyer, Dan Millman, Caroline Myss, Dr. Christiane Northrup, Dr. Dean Ornish, Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen, Dr. Bernie Siegel, James Van Praagh, singer Billy Vera, Doreen Virtue, Neale Donald Walsch, and bassist Victor Wooten.

Here is a three-minute video that introduces you to Phil and his book. Click here to order Sixty Seconds. Click here to ask Phil to add you to his e-mail list for updates on his blog and books.

Reading this book is like spending a few minutes face to face with each of the contributors and listening to their personal stories. Click here to read unsolicited testimonials from readers. Learn more by visiting the official Sixty Seconds website.

Sixty Seconds was one of three finalists in the General Interest/How-To category at the 12th annual Visionary Awards presented by COVR (Coalition of Visionary Resources) in Denver on June 27, 2009.

Tags: , , , ,

4 Responses to “A Close Shave”

  1. Serena Says:

    You went with the flow and everything turned out as it was meant to be. :)

  2. Phil Bolsta Says:

    Yep. The more you do that, the easier it becomes. Thanks, Serena!

  3. Glenn Says:

    heh… I forget to shave regularly, and I notice that most folks don’t notice these days. (take a look at any Land’s End catalog, for instance). My *flow* is in the direction of “oh well…”

    nose hairs are another matter…

  4. Phil Bolsta Says:

    Intentional stubble is definitely in these days, Glenn!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s


Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 452 other followers

%d bloggers like this: