Lissa’s Choice

Lissa Rankin

My blog buddy, Lissa Rankin, faced a tough choice this week. Did she make the right decision? Absolutely! There was no doubt in my mind that she would.

Here is Lissa’s account from her blog, Owning Pink.


Saturday night, I returned home from New York City after a whirlwind week of 20 TV appearances, eight interviews with magazine editors at Glamour, Woman’s Day, Health magazine, Shape and other hot-shot publications, a Get Out Of Your Own Way workshop, and meetings with agents. Sunday, I was busy packing with my family to go to Lake Tahoe for my daughter’s spring break and to Big Sur to celebrate Easter (which happens to land on my birthday this year). Then the phone rang, and I found out that a major national television show you’ve all heard of (and that I’ve dreamed of appearing on) wanted me to hop back on a plane and fly out to New York to appear on their show.

I had been away from my hubby and 5-year-old daughter for a whole week, and we had been planning to spend this special week together for months. And I felt the familiar tearing between my ambition and my family.

Career Family Career Family Career…

Every time I get on a plane to fly to New York for some golden professional opportunity, my daughter and I both cry. Last week, I asked Siena, “Do you ever get mad that Mommy has to fly to New York so much?” (I’ve been there ten times this year.) And Siena said, “Mommy, I get sad. But I know people in New York need you just like I do. So I don’t get mad. Actually, I’m proud of you.”

So suffice it to say I’m raising a little Buddha — and she’s the most awesome, understanding, zen kid in the world.

Which is why, when I found out I had the opportunity to appear on this show to talk about how parents need to talk to their daughters young because they’re developing so fast and we want to empower them to love and appreciate their bodies, I felt torn.

On one level, it’s national television and great exposure. It would look great on my résumé and likely open up other national television opportunities. And it would give me a chance to demonstrate that I can shine, even when the pressure is on. Plus, I’m passionate about the message I would be delivering. You could argue that the ends justifies the means when it comes to fulfilling your life purpose and delivering your mission.

But what if it means missing a ski vacation with your family? What if it means jetting off — again — after you just got home, when you promised your daughter it would be at least three weeks before you had to race off again? What if it means she stops trusting your word and pulls her heart away just the teensiest bit because she’s tired of having her heart broken?

No way. I couldn’t do it.

So I made a request to the producers. Could they wait a week? Could I spend Siena’s spring break skiing, hunt for Easter eggs with her, cut my birthday cake with my husband and daughter, and then fly to New York to appear on the show? It seemed like a good compromise to me.

They Said No.

But the reason they were calling was because I was quoted in a New York Times article, and they wanted to air the segment right away because it was “news.” Next week, it wouldn’t be. So they found someone else to replace me.

And my heart is heavy. I’m so disappointed that a tear is springing up as I write this. I was thinking maybe this was my big break. Maybe all the pieces of my sometimes disparate professional life would come together magically after Oprah saw how poised I was on this show. Maybe the Owning Pink message would miraculously spread around the world.

Or maybe not.

So part of me is bummed, but another part of me is uber-proud — proud that I didn’t let my ambition overrule my commitment to my family, proud that I didn’t drop everything to appear on national television, proud that I could set goals, but release attachment to outcomes and trust that the Universe does everything in divine timing.

So I am surrendering — yet again. I am closing my eyes and saying, “Take over, Universe.” I am breathing and smiling because my faith is beating the crap out of my fear.

Lissa and Siena

And I feel blessed to be here in Lake Tahoe with my daughter. When I told her what happened with the show, my daughter said, “Mommy, you don’t need them. They need you.”


And so it shall be.

And now it’s time for a snowball fight. And sled-riding. And making another snowgirl.

What do you think? Should I have jetted off to New York and jumped at the opportunity? Or should I have prioritized my family over my career this week? Did I make the right choice? Would you have done the same thing? How do we balance these things — career, family, ambition, callings? I’d love to hear your thoughts….


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4 Responses to “Lissa’s Choice”

  1. Serena Says:

    After reading this I admire and respect her even more. We are blessed to have people like Lisa and you, Phil, in our lives. :)

  2. Phil Bolsta Says:

    Thank you for your kind words, Serena.

  3. Lissa Rankin Says:

    Oh honey, thank you for sharing my story! I forget sometimes that people are listening when I write from the heart.

    I’m still in Lake Tahoe and off for our last day of skiing before heading to Carmel for Easter weekend and my birthday. And I honestly have no regrets. The memories we’ve made this week have been priceless, and had I gone to New York, I would have missed the chance to see my daughter’s face the first time she tubed down a hill.

    Thank you for honoring my story, my friend.

    Great big love

  4. Phil Bolsta Says:

    Big love back to you, Lisas! Funny how the most difficult choices are actually the easiest when you zero in on what’s really important. Hooray for mommy-and-daughter memories!

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