Six Minutes

This afternoon at the place where I volunteer, I overheard two women I know who are a bit older than me mention that they were tired and dragging. Since I’m a certified massage therapist, I asked if they’d like a neck-and-shoulder rub in the lunchroom. (I do three-minte shoulder massages for yoga students at a nearby yoga studio three times a week in exchange for free classes.) Both enthusiastically accepted my offer.

During the seated-chair massages, each of which lasted about six minutes, I learned that one woman’s husband had been rear-ended the previous day and was hurting pretty badly; and the other woman told me it was the twenty-sixth anniversary of her nine-year-old son’s death. Here I thought I would just help them get reinvigorated; instead, I was deeply touched and felt honored to be of service and make their difficult day just a little bit better. After six minutes, each of them felt refreshed and energized.

Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.
Philo of Alexandria

Hearing their stories inspired me to heighten my awareness about people who are in need of nurturing attention. Massage isn’t always appropriate, of course, but all of us can spare a few minutes to listen—really listen in a caring, nurturing way—to someone who wants nothing more than to be listened to.

Helping someone else takes you out of your head—where fear and doubt dwell—and puts you back into your heart. You’ll discover . . . that you are part of a larger family that needs you.
Ariane de Bonvoisin

Whom shall you bless with your kindness? Whoever is in front of you and in need of your compassion. They have crossed your path for a reason. In just six minutes, you can do a world of good.

Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by the accidents of time, or place, or circumstances, are brought into closer connection with you.
Saint Augustine

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4 Responses to “Six Minutes”

  1. Cassandra Says:

    I truly believe that we have such power to impact others that cross our lives – we can make their days beautiful or pained by the simple choices we make – choosing to listen, to smile, to lend a hand can bring sunshine into another person’s life.
    I love that you took those 6 minutes and gave them to these two women.

  2. Phil Bolsta Says:

    Well said, Cassandra. Thank you!

  3. Mary Campbell Says:

    I don’t know, Phil, why I sometimes skip over the e-mail that alerts me to your blog. It is always heartening and shiny. The fact that you write it CONSISTENTLY is stupefying. I can go for weeks….
    Well. It was either Christiane Northrup or Robert Holden, I think, or maybe Louise Hay… or was it Cheryl Richardson? … anyway, one of those wise persons recommended that one converse with another as though nothing is more important than not only listening intently but listening so as to discern the way the other wants you to feel. Hmm… that doesn’t sound right. Well, words to that effect…. Many blessings to you this day…. Mary

  4. Phil Bolsta Says:

    I know what you mean, Mary, and I appreciate the message. No problem about skipping over e-mails. Sometimes life pulls us away from things we want and like to do. When it’s time, and you’re in the right place, I’ll be here waiting for you!

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