This touching Mother’s Day tribute to birth mothers was written by my friend, Lori Anne Yang, for her blog, Mammaste. It is at once uplifting and heartbreaking, as one mother holds her child close while another loves from afar.
I WISH FOR YOU A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
by Lori Anne Yang
Quotes from birth mothers to their babies:
My darling, my other self . . .
I touched your cheeks and nose.
You were like an angel who had come from heaven.
I am a mother to five children. To three of them, I am not their only mother. They have birth mothers, and they have me. Today, as I write this on Mother’s Day, I can feel those birth mothers wondering about and remembering their children, our children. On each child’s birthday and on Mother’s Day I always stop to whisper a silent thank you to them, sending good thoughts to lift their spirits. I imagine these days must be as hard for them as they are joyful for me.
I call your name quietly in my heart.
Know that your spirit is within my spirit.
From far away, I will pray for your happiness.
In the beginning when my children were babies, fresh and new to the world, I often wondered if they carried the sadness of parting from their mothers, like a ship pulling away from the dock carries travelers from tearful families left on shore.
It grieved me that I had to let you go.
You cried in a loud voice as if you knew your mother’s heart.
As years pass, I imagine the expanse of ocean growing wider and wider between that metaphorical ship and that very real woman left standing on the shore, and I wonder if time ever lessens her pain.
I love you from far away.
I wonder if she ever stops searching the horizon, hoping to see a glimpse of that ship returning. I see her in my heart, the woman to whom I owe so much of my own happiness and I send her my prayers of love and strength.
I cannot give up my wish to see you again.
Is it possible we will meet again?
I call your name quietly in my heart.
After adopting our third child, a son from Korea, my friend (also a Korean adoptee ) gave me a book called I Wish for You a Beautiful Life by Sarah Dorrow. The book is filled with letters Korean birth mothers wrote to their little babies as they sent them sailing into the arms of joyful, ecstatic mothers like me. It is a wonderful book, heartbreaking and beautiful in turn.
I want you to be a happy person, with a big smile.
All the quotes included here are from those letters. They remind me of the great sacrifice each woman made for my happiness and for the happiness of her beloved child; and I never take that for granted. Never.
I’ll pray that you meet the most wonderful parents.
Happy Mother’s Day to each and every birth mother. So many of us owe you such a deep, deep gratitude. ”Thank you” seems so feeble a phrase to encompass such an enormous feeling in my heart.
Dear adoptive parents . . . Please lead my baby to be a righteous and happy person. . . Please love my baby.
Yes. I promise. I will. I do. Thank you. I wish for you a beautiful life too.
Lori is the proprietor of an enterprise that has perhaps the best name ever: Mammaste, which is essentially Namaste for Moms. Through its message, products and philanthropy Mammaste promotes loving the whole world with a mother’s heart and reminds us to see divinity in ourselves and others, every day. Click here to check out the Mammaste website.
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