Posts Tagged ‘authenticity’

Life Is Eager to Prove Your Limits False

October 21, 2010

Do not settle for a job that requires you to check your spirit at the door; your right livelihood calls for you to bring your whole self to the workplace. What does that look like? You speak and act authentically, and value your values more than your paycheck.

When people go to work, they shouldn’t have to leave their hearts at home.
Betty Bender

If you are miserable in your current position, recognize that every job you ever had has (more…)

Be Someone, Not Something

August 20, 2010

When you live with integrity, peer pressure does not constrain you. You live your life, as psychologist Abraham Maslow taught, “independent of the good opinion of others.”

I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence.
Frederick Douglass

You recognize that going (more…)

Losing Sight of the Shore

July 3, 2010

Travel far enough on your spiritual path, and you will reach a crossroads. You will have to choose between retreating to the safety and comfort of life as you knew it, or severing all ties with that existence and forging bravely ahead into the vast unknown.

One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.
Andre Gide

This does not necessarily mean you must bid farewell to the life you have lived; but it does mean that you are genuinely (more…)

Artist Joe Paquet on Artistic Authenticity

September 19, 2009



Joe Paquet at work

Joe Paquet is an artist and teacher. He is a signature member of the Plein Air Painters of America, The Salmagundi Club of New York and the California Art Club. His work is featured in galleries on the East and West coast and he has been featured in The Washington Post Sunday magazine, American Artist, Artist MagazineSouthwest Art and The Villager.

Joe maintains a studio in St Paul, Minnesota. Click here to visit Joe’s website.


The Soaring Spirit of Charice Pempengco

December 10, 2008


Charice’s March 2010 music video for Pyramid, written by David Jassy and Lyrica Anderson, also features R&B singer Iyaz.

Click here to buy Charice’s debut album, which went on sale May 11, 2010, a day after her eighteenth birthday!

Here's the cover for Charice's debut album, which dropped May 11, 2010!

And here is the official music video for Pyramid.

Following Charice’s success with Pyramid, posted a three-minute interview with her on July 1, 2010.


One night, when our daughter, Erin, was seven, Kate and I tucked her into bed. Kate had rushed upstairs to say goodnight during a commercial break from a show she was watching. After a couple minutes, Kate could hear her show coming back on so when Erin asked her for a lullaby, Kate suggested, “Have Daddy sing you one instead.” With that, she hurried downstairs. Erin looked at me, eyes pleading, and said, “Please don’t sing me a lullaby, Daddy.”

Yes, I was often reminded that I couldn’t carry a tune in a bucket with a lid on it. But I have long envied people who can sing well. I often wondered what it must be like to be singing on stage and getting so lost in the music and your performance that the experience becomes nothing short of transcendental. What an incredible feeling that must be! Indeed, friends of mine who sing professionally confirm that it’s a feeling like no other.

I know, we all have our own talents, and I feel quite blessed to have mine, but still . . .


The once-in-a-generation voice of Charice Pempengco

I just wanted to give you a little background about why I am so impressed with Filipino Charice Pempengco, who was sixteen years old when I first encountered her. What a gift to be able to express such a great talent at such a young age. I love the way she pours her entire soul into her performance and sings with such power and authenticity, such joy and abandon. Ah, if only we all could express our unique gifts so magnificently!

Charice represents the kind of world we all pray for when we close our eyes and dare to dream. That may sound like an enormous and unreasonable burden to place on the shoulders of a sixteen-year-old girl, but ultimately, it is not how she shows up in the world that matters so much, it is how her joyous spirit touches us, lifts us up, makes us believe in not only her goodness but our own. Charice is far more than just a teenage girl, she is a force of nature. Her mere presence in this world blesses us and makes us strong.

Interview magazine once said about virtuoso violinist Joshua Bell that his playing “does nothing less than tell human beings why they bother to live.” You can add Charice to that list.


Are You the Queen of Denial?

November 8, 2008

Have you seen this bumper sticker:


rodin-the-thinkerIt is one of the best questions you can ask yourself. To live with authenticity and integrity, you must be ferociously honest with yourself. It takes courage to peel away layer after layer of beliefs, behaviors, and assumptions and rigorously hold yourself accountable to life. If you choose to look away and (more…)

Work Through Your Relationship Grief

September 27, 2008

Last summer, my marriage ended. I didn’t want it to, but the gap between our lifestyles kept widening, and splitting up soon became the obvious course of action. I was heartbroken, but from the start I recognized that there was great value in my grieving process.

I’m sharing what I went through in the hope that the process that helped me recover relatively quickly may offer some comfort to others who are hurting. It took me four months to heal, which is far better than four years . . . or forever. You can recover from a broken heart. You can heal. You can be whole again.


Conversations With Dog

September 17, 2008

conversations-with-dogKnowing that I love dogs and reading about spirituality, my daughter gave me the perfect gift: a little book called Conversations with Dog. To my surprise, I found it very well done and an insightful look into the psyche of dogs.

What struck me the most was the notion that we cannot give a dog mixed messages by thinking one thing and saying another. Dogs are more telepathically developed than we are and get confused when our emotions and body language are at odds with our words.


Humbled but Unbowed

September 12, 2008

sixty-seconds-coverI had fun making a three-minute video to promote my book, Sixty Seconds: One Moment Changes Everything. I wrote the script and enlisted the help of two talented and generous friends—actor and filmmaker Jeffrey Goodson, and actress and singer Holly Schroeder. We got together and Holly interviewed me as if we were on a TV talk show. After Jeff’s typically superb editing, I posted the video on my website. Alas, you won’t find it there anymore. I trashed that bad boy a few hours later.

Why? From the start, I was leery of my acting ability. The more I tried to sound natural, the more I came off as rehearsed and inauthentic. Wondering if I was just being too hard on myself, I posted the video on my site and asked my ex-wife (whom I’m still very close to) and our daughter to critique it.