Posts Tagged ‘choose love’

The Cure for Dealing With Irrational Relatives

January 2, 2010

Two days ago, I struck up a conversation at a restaurant with Judy, a woman who, like me, was waiting for a takeout order. She had traveled a thousand miles to Minneapolis to care for her ailing elderly father. As we talked further, she confessed that a family member had been treating her harshly and unfairly, which was tying her stomach up in knots. She was agonizing over whether she should talk to this person and if so, what she could say to try to make things better.

Judy  was open to my suggestions, so I explained that when someone is acting irrationally and illogically, anything you do in response, from ignoring them to attempting a quiet discussion to angrily confronting them, will only make things worse. No matter how honorable your intentions, engaging an irrational person is akin to throwing logs on the fire. You’re feeding that energy exactly what it wants and needs.

I told her that it was a big mistake to take such irrational behavior personally, that it wasn’t about her at all, and that the only response that could bring her peace was to (more…)

We Would Fall Down and Worship Each Other

August 16, 2009

little-boy-and-girl-happy-smilingGod’s infinite love for us is the celestial music of our soul. Every moment presents a fresh opportunity to express it, to give voice to it, to let it burst forth in celebratory song. As soon as you accept that you are bathed in God’s loving consciousness in every moment, you open your heart to knowing true peace.

If you are beautiful and loved, then so is every other person you meet. If your purpose on this earth is to learn and practice unconditional love, then all your relationships become hallowed ground.

If you don’t find God in the next person you meet, it is a waste of time looking for him further.
Mahatma Gandhi

Imagine a child, alone and frightened, wishing it were home, knowing that all will be well, that it (more…)

Learn to Love the Unlovable

April 9, 2009

little-girl-holding-heartImagine shifting your perspective and recognizing that every time you meet or talk with a fellow human being, you have an opportunity to provide love to that person, love which they are in desperate need of.

Choosing love does not require you to be demonstratively loving, which could easily be misinterpreted under certain circumstances. It may simply mean that you project a loving presence during the course of your interactions.

Why wouldn’t you come from love in every encounter? For most of us, it is because (more…)

Which Will You Choose—Love or Fear?

August 1, 2008

mother-kissing-her-babyYour every thought, word and deed spring from either love or fear. The nature of your choice determines the quality of your life.

Love is the voice of your conscience, the whisper of the divine. Fear expresses itself as anger, intimidation, insecurity, self-loathing, or any other emotion or behavior not grounded in love.

When you choose love, you are coming from your heart and declaring that you trust God to handle the consequences. When you choose fear, you are coming from your head and announcing that you can manage the situation better than God can.

Choose love, and you are being proactive. You are making things happen, living a life of choice, and getting better. Choose fear, and you are (more…)