Posts Tagged ‘conflict’

Two WIngs to Fly

August 14, 2011


Every tussle with adversity is designed to further buff the perfectly formed diamond of your soul.

If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished?
Rumi

An athlete elevates his game not by practice alone, but by competing against stronger opponents.

He that wrestles with us strengthens our nerves and sharpens our skill. Our antagonist is our helper.
Edmund Burke



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Follow Your Bliss, Be Ready to Hiss

January 23, 2011

Choosing to live a kind, loving spiritual life does not require you to back down in the face of conflict or controversy. When the situation warrants it, your values must be backed up by your words and actions. Here’s a nice story that illustrates this point from Finding the Joy Within You, a collection of talks given by Sri Daya Mata, the longtime president of Self-Realization Fellowship.

There are times, of course, when we should speak up firmly, when it would be wrong not to take a stand. But there should be no feeling of enmity. Guruji used to tell a story that illustrates this:

In a village, there once lived a cobra whose bite had taken the lives of many of the people. The leader of the community went to a wise man and said, “We can’t go on like this. The snake is killing off all the villagers. Won’t you please do something about it?”

The wise man agreed to help. He went to the cobra and said, “Look (more…)

Turning Adversaries Into Allies

August 6, 2008

coworkers-talking-smilingI loved my job but one of my coworkers didn’t like me much. I dreaded running into her—her disdain was almost palpable. But what bothered me more was knowing there was someone in the world whose mere presence made me tense.

Then it hit me. If I couldn’t change the way she felt about me, I would change the way I felt about her. I decided to change the energy between us by bathing her in love every time I saw her. The next time I encountered her in the hallway, I sent her loving energy from my heart and envisioned her surrounded by light and love.  

Such a simple shift in perspective made a world of difference! Instead of dreading the sight of her, I now looked forward to seeing her! That constant source of tension disappeared and I was free to fearlessly roam the halls once again.

Did she treat me any differently? Hard to say. I do think her attitude softened a bit. The point was, her attitude no longer affected me. And on some level, I know without question that the loving energy I sent her way had a healing effect. After all, that’s what loving energy does.

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