Posts Tagged ‘core beliefs’

You Can Choose a Better Reality

April 18, 2014

two-men-having-lunch-talkingAt lunch today, a friend asserted some opinions about parenting and romantic relationships that, based upon his experiences and observations, he regarded as absolutes.

I disagreed, informing him that my experiences were the direct opposite of his. I essentially told him, “Your reality is not my reality. Therefore, it is not the only reality. Therefore, you can choose to live in a different, better reality.”

He didn’t budge. His beliefs had caused him great stress throughout his life and were responsible for many unnecessary roadblocks, but he remained convinced that the way he saw the world was the way it was, period.

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Tell Me How You Feel!

September 22, 2008

two-guys-talking-in-coffeeshopI recently asked a friend in a restaurant how he was coping with the end of his marriage. He shrugged and said he didn’t know what to say. Thinking I wasn’t being clear, I asked how he was feeling. To my astonishment, he said he doesn’t talk about his feelings. We blinked at each other across the table for a few awkward moments before I clumsily tried to change the subject to something more superficial.

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