Posts Tagged ‘deathbed’

Days Away

December 1, 2011

We often read of family members or friends who have been in conflict for years only to reconcile their differences when one of them is days away from leaving this world. So the question is, if we can forgive and heal at the end of life, why can’t we forgive and heal right now, today?

Imagine your final moments with someone whom you have clashed with for years. Would you remain hiding behind a brick wall of resentment with clenched fists and clenched heart, or would you step out into (more…)

The Only Way to Die

November 29, 2011

If I were to check out tomorrow, I’d feel exactly the same way that Mary Lavin’s grandfather and Michael Gartner’s father did:

“Take my own father! You know what he said in his last moments? On his deathbed, he defied me to name a man who (more…)

Regrets of the Dying

June 2, 2011

In an earlier post, I presented the two questions you have to answer if you want to live authentically and happily. I also wrote about a third important question that stops most people in their tracks. If you turn away from these questions and trudge on, day after day, year after year doing what you don’t want to do instead of boldly blazing your own unique trail in life, well, you may very well end up on your deathbed with the five regrets that Bronnie Ware observed in the dying patients she cared for.

by Bronnie Ware 

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to (more…)