Posts Tagged ‘divorce’

Divorced, Yes, But Soulmates Nonetheless

January 6, 2010

Leslie Parrish and Richard Bach

I just finished reading The Bridge Across Forever: A True Love Story, Richard Bach‘s intimate and revealing account of his love affair and marriage to actress Leslie Parrish. As a hopeless romantic, I enjoyed the book very much. I like Bach’s poetic style and his fearless dedication to connect with readers by sharing his deepest emotions.

Bach and Parrish were very much in love. In one of the workshops they presented together, Parrish gave this answer when asked about how somebody could recognize when they have found thier soulmate:

A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.


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Work Through Your Relationship Grief

September 27, 2008

Last summer, my marriage ended. I didn’t want it to, but the gap between our lifestyles kept widening, and splitting up soon became the obvious course of action. I was heartbroken, but from the start I recognized that there was great value in my grieving process.

I’m sharing what I went through in the hope that the process that helped me recover relatively quickly may offer some comfort to others who are hurting. It took me four months to heal, which is far better than four years . . . or forever. You can recover from a broken heart. You can heal. You can be whole again.

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Dads, Cherish Your Kids!

August 16, 2008

dad-throwing-daughterSoon after my divorce, I realized I had a choice. I could either spend prodigious amounts of time and money on pursuing romantic relationships or I could direct those resources toward deepening my relationship with my teenage daughter. Talk about a no-brainer. There would always be time to date. My daughter would be young only once.

Dads, if you’re looking for love, if you’re looking for meaning, look no further than your own living room. Whether they’re toddlers or teenagers, your children will soak up as much love as you can give them and return it tenfold.

The first step is to listen to them with full attention. And don’t just ask what happened at school that day. Ask them how they feel about it. (Closed circuit to dads with daughters: she doesn’t want you to solve her problems, she just wants you to listen to them. Trust me on this one.)

Think up some fun ways to demonstrate to your kids how much you love and cherish them. For example: (more…)