Posts Tagged ‘enlightened’

Seriously Bittersweet Love

May 10, 2014

Lori Anne Yang

This story by my friend, Lori Anne Yang is not only exquisitely crafted and beautifully written, it powerfully conveys what is possible when you consciously choose to break toxic, dysfunctional patterns of your upbringing and awaken to a joyous new way of being in the world. Not only will you transform your relationship with your life partner, but with everyone in your life, and with life itself.

May Lori’s story help you find the strength and inspiration you need to free yourself from the quicksand of old habits and debilitating drama, for beauty waits patiently, lovingly at the edge, reaching for your hand.



SERIOUSLY BITTERSWEET LOVE

seriously-bittersweet-chocolate-torteI sit knees to chin in the preschool chair in my darkened church basement-turned-bistro at a community gathering of music and storytelling. In my role as church lady, I replenish the dessert table when the selections become low. One beautiful cake is ominously labeled ‘Seriously Bittersweet Chocolate Torte” — emphasis clearly placed on the underlined word “bitter.” Fair warning.

I admit, I am tempted. I have been trying to lose a few pounds, but I have a serious addiction to bittersweet chocolate! I smile as I notice the inner argument I am having with my willpower is not unlike my struggle years before to quit my addiction to some seriously bittersweet love, emphasis on bitter. The kind of drama-filled, roller-coaster, anything-tamer-than-a-dish-throwing-argument-is-boring kind of love.

You see, I come from a long and proud lineage of seriously bittersweet lovers. Of difficult husbands and the women who throw stuff at them. It’s in my DNA. Passed down from my nimble forefathers artfully dodging projectiles launched by my foremothers in stories that have become family lore. Great-grandma pitching the sugar bowl at her chronically tipsy, but still impressively agile husband; sugar exploding into a sparkling crystal constellation on the freshly scrubbed cabin wall behind him. My tiny, diminutive grandmother chucking the cast-iron skillet at grandfather, who (more…)

Yin and Yang . . . and a Life-Altering Vision

December 15, 2013

Yin (noun): In Chinese philosophy, the passive female principle of the universe, characterized as female and sustaining and associated with earth, dark, and cold.

Yang (noun): Lori Anne, author of this post.


Lori Anne Yang

Lori Anne Yang


Literally overnight, my friend, Lori Anne Yang, experienced a profound awakening that delivered her from the darkness of depression into the light of joyous gratitude and limitless love. It’s a wonderful reminder that changing your perspective can instantaneously change everything for the better. Thank you, Lori, for sharing your beautiful story.



LORI ANNE YANG’S LIFE-ALTERING VISION

woman-bridge-moon-depressed-paintingAround the time I was 35 years old, after a devastating period in my life of prolonged sorrow, I had a profound experience of rebirth. I know it is cliché to say it is always darkest before the dawn, but for me it truly was.

It was a very black night, in the midst of a painful divorce and a life in complete upheaval and pain. I believed all choices in front of me led to even more pain for myself and everyone around me. I was at a point where choosing not to live felt like a very real solution to my problems. The thought of having no future became more comforting to me than any future I could foresee. I cried myself to sleep next to all the untouched pharmaceutical bottles I had gathered on the nightstand next to me.

I will never know if I would have gone through with ending my life that night, or if it was just a step I was taking in testing this option . . . moving closer to it to see if it still felt like the answer. I will never know because I (more…)

Are You Asleep at the Wheel?

May 5, 2011

If you’re like me, you probably thought when you were younger that you were as fully conscious and aware as you were ever going to be. Ah, the innocence of youth. Then, as the years rolled by, you realized that you had been just self-absorbed enough to not realize that you were sleepwalking through life. As you gradually “awoke in the dream” and learned how to become a conscious witness to your own life, you marveled at how clueless you had been.

The key to growth is the introduction of higher dimensions of consciousness into our awareness.
Lao Tzu

That’s the Catch-22 of life. You don’t have a clue (more…)

When the Spirit Is Ready, the Teacher Appears

January 30, 2009
master-paramahansa-yogananda

Paramahansa Yogananda




I felt so drawn to Paramahansa Yogananda that it felt like I was coming home. And I wondered why we all are drawn to different paths and different teachers. What were the determining factors—our stage of development, our scared contract, karma, style of teaching, similar wavelengths, all of the above? Then I read this passage in Eckhart Tolles magnificent book, The Power of Now.




If you are drawn to an enlightened teacher, it is because there is already enough presence in you to recognize presence in another. There were many people who did not recognize Jesus or the Buddha, as there are and always have been many people who are (more…)

I Was Young, Carefree and Clueless

September 9, 2008

clueless-is-no-excuse-road-signThere are people who don’t have a clue that they don’t have a clue. No matter how gently and compassionately you try to tell such people that they don’t have a clue, they act insulted, get defensive and accuse you of being arrogant.

Their response proves the point: the more unenlightened someone is, the more they will take offense when told they are unenlightened. Someone who is enlightened and mature considers criticism objectively; he or she either accepts the criticism as true and changes his/her behavior accordingly, or judges the criticism as lacking in merit and dismisses it without a second thought.

I know this to be true because I used to be among the chronically clueless. I was wildly (more…)