Posts Tagged ‘enlightenment’

Thank You For Everything. I Have No Complaint Whatsoever.

March 11, 2010

Alan Cohen

I enjoyed this essay by Alan Cohen on the value of gratitude. Repeating this affirmation sounds like a worthwhile exercise!

Alan is the author of many books, including Dare to be Yourself and I Had it All the Time.

Here is a wonderful essay by Alan that I posted earlier.

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The story is told about a woman Zen master named Sono who taught one very simple method of enlightenment. She advised everyone who came to her to adopt an affirmation to be said many times a day, under all conditions. The affirmation was, “Thank you for everything. I have no complaint whatsoever.”

Many people from all arenas of life came to Sono for healing. Some were in physical pain; others were (more…)

Dan Millman Tastes Enlightenment While Peeling a Grapefruit

October 18, 2009

Dan Millman

It was a joy to work with Dan Millman on this story for my book, Sixty Seconds: One Moment Changes Everything. As Dan’s story illustrates, enlightenment can come at the most unlikely times and in the most unlikely places. Here is an excerpt from Dan’s story, beginning with his bio.

Millman, a former world-champion gymnast, martial arts instructor, and college professor, has for three decades explored the heart of the spiritual traditions. His keynotes, seminars, and trainings present practical ways to live with a peaceful heart and warrior spirit. Millman’s twelve books have inspired millions of readers in twenty-nine languages, and his work has influenced people from all walks of life. His first book, Way of the Peaceful Warrior, was made into a motion picture starring Nick Nolte. Click here to visit Dan’s website.

On an ordinary spring afternoon in 1967, I was sitting on a curb on Telegraph Avenue in Berkeley, California, carefully peeling a pink grapefruit I had just purchased from the health food store behind me. In about an hour I would walk, with the help of a cane, down to Harmon Gymnasium to continue my strength-building and rehabilitation program. I was recovering from a badly broken leg, which I had injured in a motorcycle crash a few months before.

I was twenty-one years old, beginning my senior year of college. In that moment, though, I wasn’t thinking of past or future—I was just peeling that grapefruit, sitting on that curb, in a kind of peaceful reverie, watching the wheels of various cars drive by, noticing pieces of litter blowing in the street, and life was okay.

In the next instant, something happened. No (more…)

Barbara Winter’s Epiphany On a Bicycle Path

October 15, 2009

Barbara Winter

I love the story that Barbara Winter told me for my book, Sixty Seconds: One Moment Changes Everything. Enlightenment used to be the province of monasteries; nowadays, you may experience a mystical awakening during a stroll with your daughter! Here is Barbara’s very cool story, beginning with her bio.

Winter, the author of Making A Living Without A Job, is a self-employment advocate who travels the world encouraging and inspiring people through her writing and seminars to choose their right livelihood. Her newsletter, Winning Ways, which helps readers “turn passions into profits,” has been inspiring readers for more than twenty years. Click here to visit Barbara’s website.

One sunny afternoon twenty years ago, when my daughter Jennie was ten, we set out to visit my parents’ house in Santa Barbara, California, for an informal family gathering. Jennie was riding her bike and I was walking along behind her on a little bicycle path. Two blocks into our mile-and-a-half walk, completely out of nowhere, an absolutely wonderful (more…)

Tender Thoughts for Tough Times

January 27, 2009

two-women-joy-and-sorrowWhen life seems as arbitrary as a coin flip, remember that even if you cannot make heads or tails out of what is in front of you, your job is to search for the golden nugget of divine wisdom that always lies just beneath the details.

How we feel about a challenge depends completely on how we choose to look at it. We can call upon the best in us, or let it get the best of us.

Motivational pioneer Dale Carnegie observed that when we have identified and accepted the worst that can happen in a given situation, we have nothing more to lose, which automatically means that we have everything to gain.

It is always in our power to reframe a hardship so that we instantly transition from fearing the worst to expecting the best. (more…)

Relish Today, Be Excited for Tomorrow!

January 2, 2009

starsThe quest for enlightenment is a wonderfully exciting journey. The more consciously you live, the sweeter life becomes.

Ironically, as you expand the scope of your awareness, the scope of your non-awareness expands as well. You glimpse the vastness of how much there is to know and humbly realize how little of it you comprehend.

If answers to crucial questions continue to elude you, do not despair. Rather, be excited that there is so much yet to learn!

I would like to beg you, dear Sir, as well as I can, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try and love the questions themselves as if (more…)

What Do Women Want? Here’s the Answer, Guys!

December 23, 2008

bald-guy-scratching-his-headI was two weeks shy of 22 when my daughter was born. I was naïve and blissfully immature. My wife was five years older than me and an outspoken feminist. Not surprisingly, she often became exasperated with me because I just “didn’t get it.” And though I didn’t much like the way she expressed her frustration at times, I disciplined myself to pay attention to what she said rather than how she said it. And so I learned.

I also received quite an education simply by keeping the lines of communication open with my daughter as she grew older. She shared virtually every detail of her life with us, which afforded me the opportunity to get an eye-opening, behind-the-scenes look at how teenage girls viewed boys and life in general. I paid attention when she said things like, “Dad, I don’t want you to solve my problems, I just want you to listen.” And so I learned.

What I learned is the answer to the question, What do women want? If you’re one of the three billion men on this planet who claim to have no clue, the answer is very simple: Women want to be cherished.

But you already knew that, didn’t you? You’ve just been pleading ignorance because you think becoming a true life partner with a woman requires too much work. After all, looking out for number one is a full-time job and then some for most men.

It’s all about perspective. Women liken a relationship to a plant that needs daily watering. Men liken a relationship to a cactus that only needs watering every few months. (more…)

Still Clueless Perhaps, But Making Progress

November 26, 2008

My buddy Tom Endres (left) and I hosting a college talent show in our wild and crazy days

One February, when my daughter Erin was five years old, I picked her up at a friend’s house where she had been playing after school. As we arrived home, she mentioned that when spring arrived, she’d like to grow a plant that she had received as a gift since it was dying now. I said, “Better ask Mom how to do that. She knows a lot about plants and flowers.” Erin paused, then said, “You don’t know much, do you?”

It was true. Erin was a perceptive kid and even though she loved me dearly, she sensed that I had as much growing up to do as she did.

I had always been the life of the party in high school and college, cracking jokes and hamming it up. In my late twenties, however, I began dreading parties, especially those where intelligent conversation was expected. Surrounded by smart, successful people, I’d feel like a one-man island, disconnected from everyone else and largely ignored. No wonder others had no interest in talking to me; I had nothing to say. I was immature and self-absorbed. I had grown stagnant. (more…)

Reincarnation—Even God Recycles!

October 2, 2008

The idea of reincarnation is eminently logical. If we lived only one lifetime, an argument could be made that the universe is a chaotic, random crapshoot that renders any spiritual insight, and indeed our very existence, as ultimately insignificant.

Reincarnation is consistent with the concept of a benevolent universe in that we get unlimited opportunities to atone for our errors, learn the lessons we need to learn, and complete our life’s work.

Some may view reincarnation as a lifetime (more…)

Answering the Skeptics

August 7, 2008

Some readers of my book, Sixty Seconds: One Moment Changes Everything, have expressed skepticism about the veracity of a few stories that feature cool metaphysical “miracles.” They usually reference the stories by Caroline Myss and Wayne Dyer.

Skepticism is healthy as long as you also keep an open mind. Unfortunately, many people refuse to acknowledge the possibility that their belief system isn’t perfect and complete. Consequently, they interpret events in ways that fit their preconceived notions and dismiss any evidence to the contrary, no matter how compelling that evidence may be. As C. W. Leadbeater said:

It is one of the commonest of mistakes to consider that the limit of our power of perception is also the limit of all there is to perceive.


Which Will You Choose—Love or Fear?

August 1, 2008

mother-kissing-her-babyYour every thought, word and deed spring from either love or fear. The nature of your choice determines the quality of your life.

Love is the voice of your conscience, the whisper of the divine. Fear expresses itself as anger, intimidation, insecurity, self-loathing, or any other emotion or behavior not grounded in love.

When you choose love, you are coming from your heart and declaring that you trust God to handle the consequences. When you choose fear, you are coming from your head and announcing that you can manage the situation better than God can.

Choose love, and you are being proactive. You are making things happen, living a life of choice, and getting better. Choose fear, and you are (more…)