Posts Tagged ‘expectations’

An Axe to Grind

December 3, 2011






How you see a person is not necessarily who they really are. Your assessment is biased by your fears, judgments, feelings and expectations. Lao Tuz, the Father of Taoism, expressed this truth beautifully:









Once upon a time a man whose axe was missing suspected his neighbor’s son.

The boy walked like a thief, looked like a (more…)

Oh, Still It Was Splendid to Sail It!

July 25, 2011

If your happiness depends on achieving your goals precisely as you have envisioned, on events playing out according to your wishes, or on other people doing exactly what you want them to do, you are condemning yourself to a lifetime of misery.

When everything has to be right, something isn’t.
Stanislaw Lec

Giving your best and learning along the way are more important than the ultimate outcome of your efforts.

And what if I did run my ship (more…)

Work Through Your Relationship Grief

September 27, 2008

Last summer, my marriage ended. I didn’t want it to, but the gap between our lifestyles kept widening, and splitting up soon became the obvious course of action. I was heartbroken, but from the start I recognized that there was great value in my grieving process.

I’m sharing what I went through in the hope that the process that helped me recover relatively quickly may offer some comfort to others who are hurting. It took me four months to heal, which is far better than four years . . . or forever. You can recover from a broken heart. You can heal. You can be whole again.

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