Posts Tagged ‘generosity’

Father-to-Son Kindness Karma

October 5, 2013

“One good turn deserves another” may be a cliche, but it’s an accurate way to describe the karma of kindness. As Fulton J. Sheen noted:

Life is like a cash register in that every account, every thought, every deed, like every sale, is registered and recorded.

It is not ours to know when and how a debt will be repaid. Or that it’s even recorded in the ledger of life. As Buddy Shear of Cullman, Alabama, found out, it can take a generation to pay it forward. Buddy’s story appeared in the September 2013 issue of Guideposts.

He wanted to make his son’s wedding perfect, just as his father had made his.

what-goes-around-comes-around-signFather of the groom didn’t quite have the same ring as mother of the bride, but I took my duties seriously. My oldest son, Josh, was getting married, and I wanted to do everything I could to make his wedding day the greatest, most perfect day of his life. Like my father did for my wedding.

Dad died years earlier and I still missed him. Maybe never more than I did now.

I stood outside the door of a shop I’d never been to and gave the shoes I was carrying another despairing glance. The shoes that went with my son’s tuxedo. That I had promised I’d take care of.

Josh and his bride-to-be, Tara, were about the same height. She planned to wear heels and Josh had confided to my wife, Debbie, and me that he didn’t want her to tower over him at the altar. Debbie had suggested putting stacked heels on his shoes.

I’d dropped the shoes off at the repair shop we usually used. I’d picked them up this morning and the heels were stacked, all right… into (more…)

A Free Ride Through Free Throws

July 14, 2011

Maturity. Generosity. Compassion. Empathy. Class. Allan Guei has all that in spades at eighteen years old. The above ESPN video interview with Guei showcases Guei’s character while the Yahoo! Sports story below describes Guei’s heroic act.

The event – a foul-shooting contest for top academic students at Compton High School in Los Angeles – was created with a simple premise: Organizers wanted to show the kids at Compton how to create community spirit with college scholarship money as the incentive.

Following a tear-jerking gesture from the winner – it appears the true lessons learned were by the adults.

The kids in Compton are more than alright.

Three months after winning the $40,000 top prize, Allan Guei donated all of (more…)

Roots In All Directions

June 28, 2011

Your kind gestures may inspire others to act in kind, and perhaps set off chain reactions of good will that karmically circle back to you.

One of the most difficult things to give away is kindness—it is usually returned.
Cort R. Flint

Before your kindness returns to you, it will (more…)

You Are But a Witness

April 12, 2011

True giving is an act of selfless service. The worthiness of the recipient and the consequences of your giving are not your concern.

You often say, “I would give, but only to the deserving.”
The trees in your orchard say not so, nor the flocks in your pasture.
They give that they may live, for to withhold is to perish.
Surely he who is worthy to receive his days and his nights, is worthy of all else from you.
And he who has deserved to drink from the ocean of life deserves to fill his cup from your little stream. . . .
For in truth it is life that gives unto life—while you, who deem yourself a giver, are but a witness.

Kahlil Gibran

True giving has no ulterior motives. You do (more…)

GIve As the Rose Gives Perfume

April 4, 2011

Generosity is not confined to the sharing of material wealth. A generous spirit finds endless ways to express itself.

If you have much, give of your wealth; if you have little, give of your heart.
Arab proverb

Perhaps the most loving and meaningful gift you can give to another is (more…)

Generosity is the Best Policy

November 7, 2008

man-arms-spread-sunriseA woman called me once seeking advice on her freelance writing career. She was just starting out and wanted to know what she should charge a particular client for writing catalog copy. When I asked her what company she was going to work for, she asked me why I wanted to know that. I explained that I charged different hourly rates at the catalog companies I had worked for because of a number of variables, and that I needed to understand the circumstances of her situation in order to give her an accurate estimate.

She refused to tell me the name of the client. “If I tell you,” she said, “you’ll try to take the job away from me.” Whoa. When I began explaining to her that her attitude was the antithesis of what a successful freelancer needed, she hung up on me. I never heard from her again but I doubt she managed to survive as a freelance writer.

Her attitude reminds me of Barry Bonds, the baseball superstar who was universally disliked by his peers. Whenever a teammate asked for some advice, Bonds always refused, explaining that the player might end up on an opposing team someday and use that information against Bonds’ team.

Proponents of this line of thinking have a (more…)