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How to Talk to Little Girls

June 27, 2011

Lisa Bloom

In an essay for the Huffington Post, TV host, attorney and author Lisa Bloom advised readers about what not to say when meeting young girls. It’s a great point, and one that has crossed my mind over the years. I could relate when Lisa talks about suppressing the urge to tell a girl how cute she is. Unlike her, however, I’ve rarely suppressed the urge because I hadn’t put any thought into a backup plan. So it was helpful to read her suggestions here. I will put them into practice the next time I find myself in the company of a little girl cub!

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by Lisa Bloom 

I went to a dinner party at a friend’s home last weekend, and met her five-year-old daughter for the first time.

Little Maya was all curly brown hair, doe-like dark eyes, and adorable in her shiny pink nightgown. I wanted to squeal, “Maya, you’re so cute! Look at you! Turn around and model that pretty ruffled gown, you gorgeous thing!”

But I didn’t. I squelched myself. As I always bite my tongue when I meet little girls, restraining myself from my first impulse, which is to tell them how darn cute/ pretty/ beautiful/ well-dressed/ well-manicured/ well-coiffed they are.

What’s wrong with that? It’s our culture’s standard talking-to-little-girls icebreaker, isn’t it? And why not give them a sincere compliment to boost their self-esteem? Because they are so darling I just want to burst when I meet them, honestly.

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