Posts Tagged ‘love yourself’

When Selflessness Becomes Selfishness

August 21, 2010

An online friend told me recently how overwhelmed she was by her job and family responsibilities. She was on the brink of shutting down the daycare business she ran because she was miserably tired every day and the very thought of continuing such a demanding schedule exhausted her. But she felt she had to keep grinding away because her family’s needs were more important than her own.

I told her that taking care of everyone else without also taking care of herself was doing a disservice to everyone in her life. I asked her to take a step back and think about how her feeling so perpetually sleep-deprived and miserable was affecting the quality of her daily interactions with her husband, her children and her customers. Even worse, slogging on so “selflessly” would mean she’d have even less to offer in the years to come.

I said that living selflessly is a noble cause but it’s guaranteed to backfire unless (more…)

Celebrate and Sing Yourself!

February 9, 2009

love-yourselfA life of service is a noble goal, but devoting every moment to serving others is neither advisable nor possible. You must choose love for yourself as well as others by engaging in enlightened self-care—proper diet, exercise, sleep, and other healthful activities.

If you do not care for your own body, mind, and spirit, you will not be capable of authentically caring for others. Worse, you may be co-creating an environment in which others expect your service and take you for granted.

If you lean more toward self-loathing than self-love, consider how you feel about your friends. You love them even though, like you, they are imperfect, have hurt others, and regret past actions. (more…)