Posts Tagged ‘loving’

Six Minutes

January 6, 2012

This afternoon at the place where I volunteer, I overheard two women I know who are a bit older than me mention that they were tired and dragging. Since I’m a certified massage therapist, I asked if they’d like a neck-and-shoulder rub in the lunchroom. (I do three-minte shoulder massages for yoga students at a nearby yoga studio three times a week in exchange for free classes.) Both enthusiastically accepted my offer.

During the seated-chair massages, each of which lasted about six minutes, I learned that one woman’s husband had been (more…)

Follow Your Bliss, Be Ready to Hiss

January 23, 2011

Choosing to live a kind, loving spiritual life does not require you to back down in the face of conflict or controversy. When the situation warrants it, your values must be backed up by your words and actions. Here’s a nice story that illustrates this point from Finding the Joy Within You, a collection of talks given by Sri Daya Mata, the longtime president of Self-Realization Fellowship.

There are times, of course, when we should speak up firmly, when it would be wrong not to take a stand. But there should be no feeling of enmity. Guruji used to tell a story that illustrates this:

In a village, there once lived a cobra whose bite had taken the lives of many of the people. The leader of the community went to a wise man and said, “We can’t go on like this. The snake is killing off all the villagers. Won’t you please do something about it?”

The wise man agreed to help. He went to the cobra and said, “Look (more…)

Be A Nurturing Force in the World

March 8, 2009

face-massageOne of my massage clients, a wealthy businessman, broke the silence fifteen minutes into his massage at a local hotel by casually remarking, “Isn’t this odd. I’ve had massage all over the world and never experienced anything quite like this. It’s almost . . . what’s the word I’m looking for . . . it’s almost . . . maternal.”

Years later on a Sunday afternoon, at my favorite restaurant, I was working my way around the table giving my four dining companions mini-massages while they sat in their chairs. After I gave a face massage to one woman whom I had just met that morning, she said in wonderment, “No one has ever touched me like that except (more…)

Tell Me How You Feel!

September 22, 2008

two-guys-talking-in-coffeeshopI recently asked a friend in a restaurant how he was coping with the end of his marriage. He shrugged and said he didn’t know what to say. Thinking I wasn’t being clear, I asked how he was feeling. To my astonishment, he said he doesn’t talk about his feelings. We blinked at each other across the table for a few awkward moments before I clumsily tried to change the subject to something more superficial.

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