Posts Tagged ‘memorial service’

Sri Daya Mata’s Memorial Service: The Video

December 23, 2010

Sri Daya Mata

I was privileged to attend the memorial service for Self-Realization Fellowship president Sri Daya Mata at the Pasadena Civic Auditorium on Sunday, December 12, 2010. The service was warm and intimate, filled with reverence, reflection and reminiscing. Thanks to this professionally produced video footage, you’ll feel like you were right there yourself, on center stage for the complete 150-minute ceremony.

Click here to read my account of visiting Sri Daya Mata while she lay in state at Forest Lawn.

Click here to read a brief bio of Sri Daya Mata.

Click here to learn how to order the Self-Realization Fellowship Lessons for home study, a course I highly recommend.



Farewell to a Wonderful Friend

June 22, 2009

Back row: Neil's sister Karen, Neil's wife Cathie, Neil, Neil's brother Steve. Front row, Neil's daughters Luci and Helen, Neil's mom Bev.

Today is the memorial service for Neil Dolinsky, one of my best friends in the world. I wanted to share the eulogy I’ll be delivering in order to celebrate Neil’s life and to introduce him to those who were not fortunate enough to know him.

Postscript: Everyone who spoke at Neil’s service did a wonderful job. I am including their eulogies as well because everyone knew Neil in a different light and all of our tributes together painted a complete portrait of this unique man. Indeed, after the service, more than one person commented that even if they hadn’t been close to Neil, they now felt like they really knew him.

All photos were taken between April 5 and April 15, 2009.


Neil was my friend. I was two years ahead of Neil in high school, where we met, and we later worked together for seven years at a small investment management firm.

One of my most enduring, and endearing, memories of Neil was spending time in Mr. Thompson’s computer lab at Apollo High School in the months leading up to Neil’s sixteenth birthday. I had programmed the computer—which was nothing more than a teletype with yellow paper—so that as soon as Neil logged on, it printed out exactly how many weeks, days, minutes and seconds he had to wait until he turned sixteen and could get his driver’s license. Neil was so excited about getting his license, and he thought that program was so cool, that we visited that teletype pretty much every day.

After all, as everyone here knows, Neil could be described in two words: (more…)

Remembering My Dad

March 7, 2009

It was a privilege to deliver a eulogy for my dad, who died on May 1, 2005 after a long struggle with Alzheimer’s. I’m glad I had the chance to tell people what a great guy and a great father he was.

I wrote an earlier post about how he cheerfully welcomed all the guests at his own memorial service and provided the entertainment as well. He would have (more…)

How My Dad Welcomed Everyone to His Own Funeral

January 21, 2009

My dad, Kent Bolsta

My dad, Kent Bolsta, died on May 1, 2005, after a lengthy decline from Alzheimer’s. Yet, he cheerfully welcomed all the guests at his own memorial service.

How? Nearly twenty years earlier, he had made a brief cassette tape which he labeled TO BE PLAYED AT MY FUNERAL. No one in my family had listened to it until after he passed away. Click on the audio player below to hear it:

Cracking jokes about his own death was just my dad’s style. One longtime friend told my mother after the service that she had come prepared to cry and be sad, but that she was leaving with joy in her heart and a smile on her face. My dad would have been pleased. That’s the kind of service he was after—a celebration of his life, not a mournful remembrance.

Oh, by the way, my dad also performed at his own funeral. We popped in (more…)