Posts Tagged ‘peaceful’

Be Like Steel Inside

February 2, 2011

From my earliest memory, I was a people pleaser. I naively thought that if someone didn’t like me, they would realize the error of their ways once they got to know me better. Their misperception of me would then be corrected and all would be well.

Foolish, foolish me.

I’ve learned that if you are unfailingly kind, compassionate and generous of spirit, offer a genuine smile of goodwill to all, and treat others as honorably, respectfully and reverently as you would like to be treated yourself, there will always be a certain percentage of people who will think you are a lousy excuse for a human being.

Such is life.

I also learned that unreasonable people do (more…)

Make the Most of Yourself

December 13, 2010

You are fortunate if you have found the work you love to do. But a word of caution: The siren call of your right livelihood is so alluring that it is tempting to completely give yourself to it. Make a conscious effort to lead a balanced life.

Work, love, and play are the great balance wheels of man’s being.
Orison Swett Marden

Do not let your work (more…)

The Whole Universe Surrenders

June 26, 2010

Practice being silent and peaceful every day. Early morning, before your mind kicks into high gear, is an ideal time for stillness.

Silence is as full of potential wisdom and wit as the unhewn marble of great sculpture.
Aldous Huxley

Begin by silently expressing love, devotion, and yearning, and allow yourself to be (more…)

The Slo-Mo Challenge

June 13, 2009

A slow-motion capture of a drop of cream hitting a cup of coffee

I wrote in an earlier post how I often have to remind myself to breathe. Too often, I’m thinking too fast and moving too quickly, even when I’m sitting still.

About a week ago, I got another reminder. Something was hanging up my e-mail app: whatever I typed appeared on the screen one . . . letter . . . at . . . a . . . time. I kept on having to stop and wait for the letters to catch up with me. It was maddening! But then I thought, Hmmm, what if I typed that slowly on purpose? Would I be able to do that? What would the consequences be? So today I gave myself a challenge: Move in slow motion—be aware of every move I make, no matter how subtle—and see what happens.

What happened was wonderful.

• I was more (more…)

The Lion and the Gazelle

December 24, 2008

At a 1998 weekend workshop I attended, Dr. Ibrahim Jaffe, founder of the University of Spiritual Healing and Sufism, shared a life-changing story with his students.


Ibrahim said that after watching a TV nature program in which a lion savagely ripped apart a gazelle, he had been distraught. Retreating into meditation, he implored God, How could you allow such carnage and tragedy to exist? The response he received humbled him and restored his faith in divine intelligence. “I felt and saw through inner revelation how this incident was experienced from a higher level as pure love and that it was beautiful beyond description,” he told those of us in his class.

It all comes down to perspective. To our unenlightened eyes, this world may appear cruel and harsh, but even the brutality (more…)

Do You Ever Forget to Breathe?

August 20, 2008

stressed-out-office-workerEvery day, I remind myself to slow down and breathe.  I start taking a few deep breaths and then I promptly forget and go right back to being fast-paced Phil. It’s maddening! What’s even more disconcerting is that taking a long, deep breath feels foreign to me. That bothers me. A lot. I want to slow down my pace, slow down my rhythm, slow down my life and be fully present. I know how important it is to take in enough oxygen and to be, as Paramahansa Yogananda wrote, calmly active and actively calm. 

Just a few years ago, I was living a calm, peaceful life. Then a gust of busyness blew me off course and I haven’t yet found my way back, even though I know that living a spiritual life is inconsistent with moving and thinking at warp speed.

I came across a quote in a magazine article that nailed it: “A wise man never rushes.” It makes perfect sense—when you rush, when your mind is racing, you lose focus and you no longer are in the moment. Acting slowly and deliberately allows you to keep your awareness high and stay attuned to the divine current.