Posts Tagged ‘procrastination’

The One Thing You Need to Know to Overcome Perfectionism

September 7, 2013

Erin Dougherty

This excellent post
by life coach Erin Dougherty cuts right to the heart of the compulsion to be perfect. I first gained insight into this subject by reading a wonderful and eye-opening book that explained the link between procrastination and perfectionism.

Here is the sentence in Erin’s essay that jumped out at me:

I never realized that perfectionism was an attempt to avoid all rejection, all criticism and all failure.

I’ve seen this fear control the lives of so many people I know and care about. Instead of making things happen and living a life of choice, they end up letting things happen and living a life of chance. The fear of criticism and failure is where dreams go to die. It makes me profoundly sad to know that decades from now, on their deathbed, so many people will experience the soul-crushing pain of regret at never having summoned the courage to follow their heart and chase after their dreams.

May Erin’s essay serve as a clarion call to procrastinators everywhere: Surrender to the indomitable spirit within you that ceaselessly whispers, You can do this . . . you must do this . . . there is greatness within you!


by Erin Dougherty

“You’re imperfect and you’re wired for struggle but you are worthy of love and belonging.” ~Brene Brown

There’s nothing perfect about me and I’m ok with that…now. This wasn’t the case for most of my life, though. In fact, I’ve been a perfectionist for almost 30 years. I’m not counting the first five years of my life when I was free to be as messy and magical as I wanted.

In third grade I asked my mom to buy me a stack of lined notebooks and colored pens. I spent hours neatly labeling each notebook by class, date and assignment deadlines. If I made one mistake like a jagged cursive letter or a misspelling, I’d rip out the page and begin again on a fresh sheet.

This was tiring but it was also a compulsion. Everything had to be (more…)

Create! Today!

November 7, 2010

You say you want to write a book. Begin writing today! Until you write, you are not a writer.

A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is to be ultimately at peace with himself. What a man can be, he must be.
Abraham Maslow

You say you want to paint. Begin painting today! Until you paint, you are not a painter.

Alas for those who never sing and die with all their music in them.
Oliver Wendell Holmes

You say you (more…)

The Link Between Procrastination and Perfectionism

August 13, 2010

I bought this book to help me understand why someone close to me was a championship procrastinator. I found it very insightful. While the book cautioned that procrastination can be caused by any number of reasons, the authors stated that a common cause is the link between procrastination and perfectionism.

For example, let’s say that you’ve been given six weeks to write a paper for school. If you start writing it the first day and give it your very best effort, writing and revising right up until the day it’s due, yet still end up with less than a perfect grade, your illusion of perfection is shattered. However, if you (more…)

Eat That Frog!

January 23, 2009

This lighthearted one-minute video is a good reminder to avoid procrastination at all costs. I remember laughing years ago when I first heard the aphorism, Eat a live frog the first thing in the morning, and nothing worse can happen to you the rest of the day.

Brian Tracy

Brian Tracy

I really like how motivational author and speaker Brian Tracy  uses the frog story to point out some valuable tips on time management. The frog example is (more…)