Posts Tagged ‘reframing’

Everything Has Beauty

June 18, 2011

Look beyond the illusory “negative” aspects of an event and you may discover the golden nugget of divine wisdom lying just beneath the details.

Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.
Confucius

Seek to find beauty in everything you look at and you (more…)

I Am Thankful That Thorns Have Roses

June 1, 2011

Opening your mind and your heart to accept life’s endless stream of gifts is a priceless gift in itself.

Some people are always grumbling that roses have thorns; I am thankful that thorns have roses.
Alphonse Karr

Never again will you revert to a scarcity consciousness that whispers insidiously that you do not and will not ever have enough.

Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we hold in our hands, because if we are not grateful, then no  (more…)

How Can I Not Be Grateful?

November 10, 2010

If you’re going through a tough time, some thoughts from my friend Melanie may offer some comfort and hope. During our e-mail conversation, Melanie revealed that she had never truly felt loved as a child but learned to be a loving and compassionate person in spite of her upbringing.

I wrote back:

I’m sorry you were not unconditionally loved by your parents. In my view, that is inexcusable. But I understand that many parents aren’t mature and healthy enough to do what should come naturally. Good for you for breaking the unhealthy cycle!

Melanie wrote back:

Yeah, my mom didn’t love me unconditionally and I grew up with my dad’s (more…)

Dirty Laundry = Joy and Gratitude!

January 4, 2010

I love the way Lauren Rosenfeld explains how to reframe a chore like folding laundry into an opportunity to express gratitude. Click here to visit the Wisdomology website created by Lauren and her husband, James McMahon.

Lauren is right. Some of life’s greatest gifts lay hidden in ordinary moments. Washing a sink full of dirty dishes means you have enjoyed another night surrounded by loved ones. Paying the bills means you have been blessed with a source of income that allows you to provide for your family. Heightening your awareness so that you fully appreciate such moments as they occur adds tremendous depth and meaning to even the most mundane tasks.

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted.
Aldous Huxley

Similarly, frustrations and disappointments with loved ones can be reframed as opportunities to foster empathy and intimacy. A less-than-stellar report card is an invitation to (more…)

Change Your Mind . . . Change Your Life!

October 27, 2008

My friend Janet hated her writing job. After too many years of doing the same old same old, she was no longer being challenged, every task became tedious, and the enormous weight of negative office politics dragged her down into the dark and dreary Land of Bad Attitude. But guess what happened when she was allowed to become a telecommuter? Overnight, she became Little Miss Sunshine! On the days when she came into work for meetings and to pick up assignments, she was cheerful, energized and had a kind word for everyone.

She was still doing exactly the same work for exactly the same salary for exactly the same company. The only difference is that she was able to work from home, an environment that felt more comfortable to her and one that she had more control over.

Although Janet’s attitude overhaul involved a significant physical change, her transformation really came down to a mental shift. The implications of that statement are staggering. We all have the power to reframe any situation simply by changing the way we look at it. (more…)