Posts Tagged ‘release’

A Rash Decision

February 6, 2012

When you dedicate your life to service and to pleasing God, you may find that you can release resentments you’ve been gripping tightly to for years. Such was the case with my friend Judy, who was surprised and grateful when she discovered that she was able to feel compassion instead of contempt for her mother. Here is Judy’s story in her own words.


My Mom and I had never been close. In fact, there was so much tension between us that when I graduated from college I moved two thousand miles away. So her coming to see me in Denver was a “family get-together” that I dreaded for weeks leading up to her visit. Once she arrived at my little apartment, she slept in my bedroom while I camped out on the sofa. It was a miserable three days. As usual, she criticized me so often that by the end of her stay my ego felt completely eroded. I had lost every trace of self-esteem and self-confidence and felt draped in the drab cloak of depression that had blanketed my childhood.

Three days after my mother returned home, I became violently ill with intolerable night sweats, high fevers, and fatigue that had me sleeping fifteen hours a day. Just a few months after my mother’s visit, I heard from my (more…)

Recognize the Limitations of Who You Used to Be

December 20, 2009

How do we begin the process of forgiveness, of release? It may help to view your adversary in a new light—not as a powerful monster, but as a flawed, insecure human being in need of love and compassion. In other words, much like yourself.

We must learn actually not to have enemies, but only confused adversaries who are ourselves in disguise.
Alice Walker

In fact, you may be your own antagonist. Resentment is the inability to forgive others; guilt is the inability to forgive yourself.

Every guilty person is his own hangman.

If you are wracked with guilt, it (more…)

Rewrite Your Story Through Forgiveness

February 19, 2009

white-dove-forgivenessForgiveness is ultimately a selfish act, requiring you to free your imprisoned spirit and reclaim your power. If you do not forgive, you are bound to the person who injured you as surely as if you were handcuffed to him.

Forgiveness is ultimately a selfless act, requiring you to look through God’s eyes and not your own. Then, instead of judging others, you will be adding much-needed loving energy to the collective consciousness.

“Forgiveness” is a loaded word that may anger those who have endured great wrongs. Indeed, anyone with an ounce of empathy can appreciate how difficult it must be to forgive the unforgivable.

Substituting the word “release” for “forgiveness” short-circuits the emotional charge and reframes the act as a blessing that the injured party bestows on herself rather than one bestowed on her antagonist. (more…)