Posts Tagged ‘self-absorbed’

True Believers

September 14, 2011

What in your life do you believe to be true because you want it to be true, not because it is true?

Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth.
Henry David Thoreau



For instance:

• It’s healthy to express my anger, so yelling at my family when I’m upset is perfectly fine.

• I’ve only had (more…)

Seven Steps to Better Relationships

May 30, 2010




Are you getting along with people as well as you’d like to? Or do you often find yourself at odds with friends, family and even strangers? Well, if you find it difficult to get on the same page with people, the problem is probably you, not them. Look at all your relationships; you’re the common denominator. Here are seven steps for bringing more peace and harmony to your relationships.




LIVE MORE CONSCIOUSLY
Start watching your thoughts as if they were someone else’s. Doing this allows you to “step out from behind your eyes” and serve as a conscious witness to your own life. You may find that your view of objective reality was neither objective nor real.


ESCAPE FROM “PLANET ME”
Recognize that your perceptions are uniquely yours, that the world you live in has a population of one. Unfortunately, the people (more…)

Knee Jerk

February 8, 2010

This brief story from The Big Book of Small Business, a book I wrote with Tires Plus founder Tom Gegax, is an excellent reminder to avoid being so self-absorbed that we fail to consider what the person in front of us is going through.

Several years ago, I found myself hunched over my laptop on a flight from Minneapolis to San Diego. I was trying to nail a deadline under less than ideal conditions, made worse by the oaf in front of me who fully cranked his seat into my lap. Agitated over this guy’s boxing in my six-foot, two-inch frame, I sank my knees, already pressed into his seat, a little deeper to send a message. Forty-five minutes later, a woman (more…)

Goodbye Baseball Cards, Hello Life

August 22, 2008

willie-maysWhen I was twenty-three, financial challenges forced me to sell off my baseball card collection. I realize how trivial this may sound to some of you. But I had been collecting cards since I was six years old and they were precious to me.

I remember biking home from the drugstore at seven years old with a box of baseball cards—filled with twenty-four packs at a nickel each—and sitting at our family room table lovingly opening each pack, checking each card against my checklist, and organizing them into appropriate piles. My happiness could not have been more complete. Saying goodbye to my baseball cards felt like I was losing my best friends—and a big piece of my youth as well. I miss them to this day.

In hindsight, however, I am glad I had to let them go. If I hadn’t, I would have continued to (more…)