Posts Tagged ‘self-awareness’

What Are You Afraid Of?

March 2, 2013

angry-womanMore than once, friends have confided in me that they are angry with their spouse or family members. My response is the same: “Anger is always a manifestation of fear. What are you afraid of?” The question catches them off guard but I see the light go on in their eyes. After pausing to reflect, they are soon able to articulate a thoughtful response.

For example, a man who allowed his wife to push his buttons acknowledged that he feared a loss of status as “the man” in the relationship. He was trying to avoid losing respect not only in his own eyes but in hers. Perhaps that realization will lead to a productive discussion between them about power dynamics in their marriage.

A female friend of mine who was angry at her mother and sisters admitted that she feared feeling (more…)

Love Is for People Who Know Who They Are

October 29, 2011






Your search for a romantic partner will move closer to fruition once you direct your search within.





Those who go searching for love only find their own lovelessness. But the loveless never find love; only the loving find love, and they never have to search for it.
D. H. Lawrence

You cannot fully and confidently give your heart to another until you (more…)

Are You Asleep at the Wheel?

May 5, 2011

If you’re like me, you probably thought when you were younger that you were as fully conscious and aware as you were ever going to be. Ah, the innocence of youth. Then, as the years rolled by, you realized that you had been just self-absorbed enough to not realize that you were sleepwalking through life. As you gradually “awoke in the dream” and learned how to become a conscious witness to your own life, you marveled at how clueless you had been.

The key to growth is the introduction of higher dimensions of consciousness into our awareness.
Lao Tzu

That’s the Catch-22 of life. You don’t have a clue (more…)

The Sun Rises for Everyone

August 18, 2010



Spirituality encourages direct contact with God, yet without a disciplined commitment to self-awareness, seekers on the road to truth may miss the turn for humility and veer off toward arrogance.



Once the game is over, the king and the pawn go back in the same box.
Italian proverb

Yes, the further you move down the path of enlightenment, the more distance you create between your (more…)

Do Not Delay Your Transformation

July 20, 2010

The greater your self-awareness and self-knowledge, the greater your empathy for others.

Each of us really understands in others only those feelings he is capable of producing himself.
Andre Gide

Your capacity to hold (more…)

Love, That You May Live More Fully in the World

May 10, 2010



Consciousness is a continuum, ranging from complete non-awareness to unity with the Divine Mind.




The key to growth is the introduction of higher dimensions of consciousness into our awareness.
Lao Tzu

Your level of consciousness is defined by your level of self-awareness, presence, and alignment with the Source of all that is.

Be what you are. This is the first step toward becoming better than you are.
Julius Charles Hare

When your level of consciousness reaches critical mass, you can (more…)

A Safe Career Comes at a Steep Cost

November 19, 2009


The question is not whether you have a talent, but how long it will take you to discover and apply it. If you are not actively striving to identify your talent and develop your right livelihood, you are passively engaging in self-sabotage.

It is understandable why so many opt for a “safe” life doing work that they do not enjoy, especially when there are children to be raised and a mortgage to be paid.

Most people live for their pension instead of their passion.
Les Brown

It is easy to make excuses for not developing your talents, for not exploring other opportunities, for not pursuing a more challenging career path. “I need a steady paycheck to support my family.” “There are too many other people doing what I want to do.” “I’ve invested too much time and money in learning how to do this job.”

Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.
Samuel Johnson

Yes, leaving your boat chained to the dock is (more…)