Posts Tagged ‘selflessness’

The Secret to a Happy Kidhood

April 12, 2014


It’s funny how a seven-minute commercial made in Thaliand for Wacoal, a lingerie maker, can bring a tear to my eye and send me on a trip down Memory Lane. The young mother and her daughter (who is the second-cutest girl cub in the history of the world) remind me of my own childhood. I had a mom and dad who loved me unconditionally and always did special things for me.


My mom and me at Christmas

My mom and me at Christmas

When I was seven, my mom bought me some packs of baseball cards to while away the time on a train ride to my grandparents’ home. I still remember my happiness in opening a pack and finding (more…)

Love Yourself As You Love Your Friends

February 8, 2014

Anita Moorjani

Anita Moorjani




Anita Moorjani‘s account of her near-death experience (NDE) is one of the most profound stories I have ever encountered—not just because of her astonishing experience beyond this world but because her body healed itself of her end-stage cancer (Hodgkin’s Lymphoma) within days of her return to this life. Click here to watch a forty-six-minute video interview with Anita in which she shares the story of her NDE.












I just finished reading Anita’s book, Dying to Be Me. Here are two paragraphs from page 172 that, unfortunately, a lot of people can relate to. If you have not been kind to yourself, I hope you take Anita’s words to heart. Remember, you can’t cherish anyone else in a healthy way unless (more…)

Kindle Your Heart With Kindness

July 19, 2011




Choose kindness, and you are acting selflessly in ways that serve God and all the world.

What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. They are but trifles, to be sure, but, scattered along life’s pathway, the good they do is inconceivable.
Joseph Addison





Choose to be anything but kind, and you are acting selfishly in ways that serve only your own ego.

In a controversy the instant we feel anger we (more…)

Everyone Is Fighting a Hard Battle

July 1, 2011




Kindness, by definition, requires humility, purity of intent, and a willingness to put another person’s needs before your own.



Humility must accompany all our actions, must be with us everywhere; for as soon as we glory in our good works they are of no further value to our advancement in virtue.
Saint Augustine

An act of kindness tainted by your ego’s desire for recognition or reward will karmically (more…)

Al Autrey: Friend, Patriot, Hero

December 17, 2009

I salute you, Al

I just returned from a wonderful dinner with Al Autrey, one of the best friends I’ve ever had. Al was a year ahead of me in high school and we’ve been close ever since.

Al is a doctor who specializes in emergency room medicine. Seven years ago, after a year of soul-searching following 9-11, Al enlisted in the military to help develop medically-related protocols and strategies to keep our country safe. He routinely puts in 14 to 15 hours a day and may yet be deployed to Iraq.

He didn’t have to do any of this. He could have had a nice, predictable, comfortable life making a whole lot more (more…)

The Parable of the Long Spoons

April 10, 2009

Legend has it that Rabbi Haim of Romshishok, Lituania, an itinerant preacher, was granted permission to visit both heaven and hell. Upon his return to earth, he traveled from town to town sharing his journey.

THE PARABLE OF THE LONG SPOONS

long-wooden-spoonWith an angel for his guide, the Rabbi is first ushered through the gates of  Hell, which, he is surprised to find, are made of finely wrought gold. The gates are exquisitely lovely, as is the lush green landscape that lies beyond them. He looks at his angelic guide in disbelief. “It’s all so beautiful,” he says. “The sight of the meadows and mountains . . . the sounds of the birds singing in the trees . . . the scent of thousands of flowers . . . ” And then the tantalizing aroma of a gourmet meal catches his attention.

Entering a large dining hall, he sees row after row of tables laden with platters of sumptuous food; yet the people seated around the tables are pale and emaciated, moaning in hunger. Coming closer, he sees that each man is holding a long spoon, but that both his arms are splinted with wooden slats so that he cannot bend either elbow to bring the food to his mouth.

The angel then took the rabbi to Heaven, where he encountered the same beauty he had witnessed in Hell. Entering the dining hall there, he saw the same scene, except  in contrast to Hell, the people seated at the tables who had their arms splintered with wooden slates were sitting contentedly, cheerfully (more…)

Spiritualize Your Romance

February 18, 2009

couple-on-beach-beautiful-skySpiritual unions are timeless. When two minds, hearts, and souls are connected through divine romance, all they are to each other is fully expressed in the present moment.

They trust each other with their lives and view their relationship as an opportunity to serve one another.

As selfishness gives way to selflessness, love grows and deepens in ways that ego would have you believe are not possible.

If one is in need of comfort or protection, their beloved is at their side in a heartbeat. If she is grieving the loss of a friendship, he does not offer solutions, he just listens. If the world deems him a (more…)