Posts Tagged ‘take responsibility’

Don’t Blame the Spoon!

July 13, 2009

Josei Toda

I like this analogy by Josei Toda, an educator, entrepreneur and Buddhist.

When we are upset, it’s easy to blame others. The true cause of our feelings, however, is within us. For example, imagine yourself as a glass of water. Now, imagine past negative experiences as sediment at the bottom of your glass. Next, think of others as spoons. When stirred, the sediments clouds your water. It may appear that the spoon caused your water to cloud—but if there were no sediment, the water would remain clear. The key, then, is to identify our sediment and actively work to remove it.

Take Josei’s advice—don’t be a sedimental fool! Always (more…)

Wayne Dyer: “Wake Up and Drive Your Boat!”

September 11, 2008


Wayne Dyer

I love this metaphor that Wayne Dyer likes to use in his talks. The message? Never let what’s happened in the past prevent you from creating your best future.

It was a privilege to interview Wayne for my book, Sixty Seconds: One Moment Changes Everything. He told me the story of his miraculous healing after experiencing a vision of St. Francis of Assissi. Read an excerpt here.


One of my favorite metaphors illustrates the importance of recognizing the past for what it is. Imagine that you are on a boat headed north at around forty knots. As you stand on the stern, looking down into the water, three questions come to mind.