Posts Tagged ‘trust’

Holding On to the Side of the Pool

March 5, 2012

Ten days before Christmas, my friend Jecenia was stopped on the freeway on her way to work, waiting behind a line of cars at an exit, when a careless driver plowed into her at full speed. For two months, she spent much of her time in bed, resting and recuperating. Many of her friends stopped by to visit, including Dave, who offered to give her an astrological reading. When Dave mentioned during the reading that she was living with a heart full of fear, she immediately knew he was right. So she challenged herself to use this down time to figure out why she had chosen to live in fear and how she could overcome it. As soon as she began exploring her inner terrain, one insight after another came tumbling out of her thoughts, and faster than you can say, “No more suffering,” she liberated herself from the prison of fear. Here’s are some of the thoughts she shared with me:

I realized that I had let fear be my king, and I bowed down to it. I wasn’t allowing myself to be me; I was letting fear completely own me. I’m a kind and loving person, why would I do that to myself? I had been living my life like I was holding on to the side of the pool, afraid (more…)

Love Is Always Open Arms

November 20, 2011

"Sleeping Couple" by Ivan Koulakov (ivan-art.com)




Spiritual partners place no restrictions upon each other. They grant each other complete freedom to do whatever they like with whomever they choose.




Him that I love, I wish to be free—even from me.
Anne Morrow Lindbergh

First, however, they thoroughly discuss the (more…)

Live an Authentic Life, No Matter the Cost

October 17, 2011

When my friend Laura began walking a spiritual path years ago, she was overjoyed at the results. She not only was happier and more peaceful, she became aware of a continual flow of synchronicities that made her life decidedly sweeter and, at times, seemingly effortless. Then she abruptly abandoned her efforts. Why? She was afraid that her personal growth would create so much distance between her and her husband that her marriage might not survive.

A funny thing happens when you ignore a calling: it eventually surfaces as a need. Years later, Laura resumed her spiritual practice because she felt she had no choice in the matter. It was either that or succumb to stagnation, perpetual boredom and a living death. When she brought up her concern to her husband, she was relieved to hear him say that, while he wasn’t interested in participating in her spiritual activities, he certainly supported her and was happy that she was doing what made her feel happy and fulfilled.

Ah, but what if Laura’s husband hadn’t been supportive? She would have (more…)

Your Intuition Is Smarter Than You Are

July 6, 2011

John, Nicole and Jonah Manley (photo by Mindy Gough)

My friend, John Manley, a fellow member of Self-Realization Fellowship, told me a powerful story about the importance of listening to your intuition. It gave me chills as he was telling it to me.

But first, a little background on John, who is an author of metaphysical speculative fiction. About a decade ago, he had been living in an SRF ashram in California for a couple of years. Determining that the monastic life was not his path, he moved back to his hometown of Toronto. He stayed there for two months before heading off to Italy for two years to study art. Every week, he attended an SRF meditation group in Toronto. On the day of a special commemoration service for Babaji, the first in the SRF line of gurus, he got off the subway and headed toward the center. Here’s what happened next, in his own words:

I saw a woman ahead of me and thought, Oh, I know her. I’ve seen her at the meditation group. So I came up to her and said, “Are you going to the Babaji ceremony?” She said, “The what?” She had never heard of Babaji. I said, “Oh, sorry, I thought you belonged to the meditation group I go to.” She said, “What meditation group is this?” I said, “Oh, it’s nothing.” She said, “No, I want to know about it.” So I told her about it as we were walking. As we neared the center, I pointed it out and said, “This is where it is. Sunday mornings they have a service if you ever want to come by.” I said goodbye and went in for the Babaji ceremony. She continued on her way to work.

Two years later, when I got back from Italy, I came to the center and there she was. Her name was Nicole. She had taken initiation and was a full-fledged member. She told me that after she had met me, she was very interested in what SRF was all about. Soon after, at a doctor’s appointment, her doctor said, “I have this book I think you’d like to read.” It was Autobiography of a Yogi. She thought, Something’s going on here. A few weeks later she (more…)

The Muffin Man Strikes Again!

October 11, 2010

More than fifteen years ago, I was riding the bus home from a weekend work shift. Intrigued by the New Age concepts I had recently begun reading about, I decided to make productive use of my time on the bus by stating and manifesting an intention. Since I was a bit hungry and would be getting off the bus in the parking lot of Rainbow Foods, I conjured up the thought of manifesting a blueberry oat-bran muffin, a favorite treat at Rainbow.

I didn’t have a penny on me so I closed my eyes and visualized me finding forty-two cents. I did so with unshakable faith that my attempt at manifesting a tasty muffin would be successful. Trust is key because doubting the process essentially sabotages it. I opened my eyes and thought, Okay, let’s get started. The first thing I can do is look for money on the bus. I looked under the seat and (more…)

Let Your Mind Dwell on These Things

August 15, 2010

Live a life of integrity and you not only conduct yourself with honor, you honor the divine essence that connects us all by your compassionate, respectful conduct toward others.



You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him.
James D. Miles

Unless they give you a reason not to, you treat every person who crosses your path as if their level of integrity matches your own.

Live so that when your children think of fairness and integrity, they think of you.
H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Just as every person unconsciously yields to the gravitational (more…)

Yours for the Taking

May 31, 2010

The courage to honor your guidance requires a unique blend of faith, hope, trust, and obedience: faith that you are being pointed in the right direction, hope that the outcome will be rewarding, trust that it will, and obedience to the divine force that operates in your best interests.

Courage can’t see around corners, but goes about them anyway.
Mignon McLaughlin

Muffle your courage and you may be forever haunted by the dim realization that (more…)

If You Want To Be Happy, Detach From Outcomes

February 17, 2009

chessboard-on-world-gods-handIf your happiness depends on achieving your goals precisely as you have envisioned, on events consistently unfolding according to your wishes, or on other people doing exactly what you want them to do, you are condemning yourself to a lifetime of misery.

When you insist that you have total control over circumstances beyond your control, you are announcing to the universe that you know better than God what is best for you.

Detaching from outcomes does not mean that you are apathetic and unmotivated. Quite the contrary: detachment means that you care deeply, but from an objective, enlightened perspective. (more…)

Explore. Dream. Discover.

December 29, 2008

man-on-top-of-mountain-slab-armsIf you yearn to live life to the fullest, to wear out rather then rust out, you must embrace uncertainty and boldness as the dearest of friends.

Train yourself to fear regret more than failure. When the mountain you need to climb seems to grow higher by the day, tell yourself that your anxiety will pale in comparison to the anguish you will surely feel in the years to come—when you face yourself in the mirror and admit that you let your dreams slip away.

Much may be asked of you. Do not worry that you are not up to the task. All that is expected is the very best that you can give. (more…)