Posts Tagged ‘women’

How to Talk to Little Girls

June 27, 2011

Lisa Bloom

In an essay for the Huffington Post, TV host, attorney and author Lisa Bloom advised readers about what not to say when meeting young girls. It’s a great point, and one that has crossed my mind over the years. I could relate when Lisa talks about suppressing the urge to tell a girl how cute she is. Unlike her, however, I’ve rarely suppressed the urge because I hadn’t put any thought into a backup plan. So it was helpful to read her suggestions here. I will put them into practice the next time I find myself in the company of a little girl cub!

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by Lisa Bloom 

I went to a dinner party at a friend’s home last weekend, and met her five-year-old daughter for the first time.

Little Maya was all curly brown hair, doe-like dark eyes, and adorable in her shiny pink nightgown. I wanted to squeal, “Maya, you’re so cute! Look at you! Turn around and model that pretty ruffled gown, you gorgeous thing!”

But I didn’t. I squelched myself. As I always bite my tongue when I meet little girls, restraining myself from my first impulse, which is to tell them how darn cute/ pretty/ beautiful/ well-dressed/ well-manicured/ well-coiffed they are.

What’s wrong with that? It’s our culture’s standard talking-to-little-girls icebreaker, isn’t it? And why not give them a sincere compliment to boost their self-esteem? Because they are so darling I just want to burst when I meet them, honestly.

Hold that (more…)

Fifteen Reasons Why Beautiful Women Have Trouble Finding Mr. Right

September 13, 2010

The response to my earlier post on what women want from men was so positive that I put together this post to explore the issue from a different angle. But first, a few ground rules:

• This entire post is based on generalizations; obviously, there are exceptions to every rule of thumb. Some may protest the use of stereotypes, but there is often enough truth in them to lightheartedly convey valuable insights.

• The terms “attractive” and “beautiful” refer to cultural and media standards, not to a woman’s inner beauty.

• The term “good in relationships” refers to men who are emotionally available, good communicators, hunger for emotional intimacy with their partner and know how to make a woman feel cherished.

• Certainly, many beautiful women have found their soulmates. I am simply contending that it’s a mistake to assume that an attractive woman can find Mr. Right as easily as she can find Mr. Right Now.


1) The more attractive the woman, the more likely she will be approached by the kind of man who approaches attractive women. This kind of man views hunting, seducing and (more…)

Men, Women and Horses

July 12, 2009

Dave Barry

I wrote an earlier post about what women want from men. It’s really not that difficult to figure out. But as the bumper sticker says, Men are from Sears, women are from Nordstrom. Nobody has captured the difference more accurately and more hilariously than humorist Dave Barry. Warning: Do not drink while reading this essay unless you want your beverage to come flying out of your nose and onto your keyboard!

by Dave Barry

Let’s say a guy named Fred is attracted to a woman named Martha. He asks her out to a movie; she accepts; they have a pretty good time. A few nights later he asks her out to dinner, and again they enjoy themselves. They continue to see each other regularly, and after a while neither one of them is seeing anybody else.

And then, one evening when they’re driving home, a thought occurs to Martha, and, without really thinking, she says it aloud: “Do you realize that, as of tonight, we’ve been seeing each other for exactly six months?”

And then, there is silence in the car.

To Martha, it seems like a very loud silence. She (more…)